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writes:I've dated a 29 year old guy for 4 years. He has two children. Girl 11 and boy 6. Married for ten years. Said he got married because she was pregnant. Both cheated on each other. She is now remarried. He has children 50% of the time. I'm 30. We had our problems. Above all we loved each other and we wanted to be together. We didn't go a day without seeing each other. Until I got pregnant! He first said he loved me and everything would be ok. He wanted to be married before baby came so a bit upset. Unsure what happened next, he just started being mean. Didn't want anyone to know!! Didn't want me to go with him anywhere! Told me No I couldn't go etc!! Told me to move far far away!! He hated me.. oh the list goes on!! Very bad! So I was remodeling my place and was at his. I stayed. I wanted things to work. My first child. I wanted a family with a mom and dad for our child. He went to one doctor's visit. 2 weeks before due date I got to move in my place. He came off and on and I never told him to leave for that's how he had done me. I just wanted my old partner back!!! I went to doctor, had to go for test. Call him to come. He had children with no sitter, so he didn't come. (They have a mom, when he hasn't had a sitter before he calls her.) It's 4pm. I had the baby at lunch time the next day. He shows up 20mins after baby is born. With other children. Stays for a bit. I come home with baby alone being he is mad I didn't give baby last name or put him on birth certificate, being I'M ALONE this entire time!! If he would man up, be good to me!! No problem .. It could be changed!! I'm unsure what role he's going to play, being how mean he has been. He takes leave form work and doesn't even stay here and help us!!! Spends his time doing ?? and being a groomsman in a woman's wedding that he has lied to me over and over and said she is a friend!!!! Told him he could take his family with him!!! If she such a friend! Didn't hear from him for days and weeks at a time!! Baby 3 months old. I've had him over for dinner, trying to work on us. He said there's no future if I don't put his name on birth certificate. He said he is finished! He deleted me off Facebook again and t he was old him not to text. Why is it that I get pregnant and he no longer loves me? He can just leave so easy?I still love him for what he was when we met! Hate what he has become. What should I do now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): Thank You!! Its so hard ! We had such great times together! I would had thought he would had had been a wonderful Fether and partner for life!!!( seems like the few nice things he has done for me while being pregnant was just for show!! He is a police officer in our small town ! like by all! except thet dnt know how Ive been treated . Hard to smile and say baby and I are fine when they are talking about what a great guy he is!!!
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