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*axdude
writes:Ok here´s my situation: My girlfriend and I dated for 10 months. We had the best time, and we were sure we would stay together forever. So recently, she started saying I was making her suffer too much, but she wouldnt make it clear why. I assumed that I would make her jealous sometimes, but I didnt do it on purpouse. I loved her and wanted her to be happy. So she dumped me.Anyway, right after she broke up with me, I tried to convince her to talk about the situation, that we couldnt split up, we were perfect together and bla bla. She would be mean to me and say that she´s now totally happy, that i was making her a sad person.Well, i decided not to contact her anymore. So a few days later, she starts to call me every 3 days to talk to me, saying she missed me, telling me to call her. So after 2 weeks like this, I tried talking her into discussing if she didnt want to get back. She was mean again, and saind " NOOO, its over! Get over it! im happy without you!"After this, she stopped calling me, but everytime she saw me on aim, she would come talk to me, asking me how I was and stuff. So one day, i decided to fake that i was seeing someone and put a message on aim. She saw it and was extremely angry, saying she couldnt belive i was seeing someone else. She blokced me on aim.A week later, i tried calling her, and she wouldnt answer. Sent her a message, no answer.After 1 month not talking to her, she called me yesterday to talk. She was really nice to me, asking me if i was seeing someone, if i was going to travel, etc. I told her that i like her a lot, shes really important to me, but i didnt want her to call me anymore, bcuz she was making me suffer. Did I do the right thing?What does she want:????? Its clear that she misses me!!! Ive told her that i still miss her, that i want to give it another try. But she keeps playing this games.. What should I do??
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reader, Relatefull :).  +, writes (13 June 2008):
This may be Qite upsetting to you but the truth is she doesnt like you .. she likes the fact she can have you when she wants. Dont let her push you about Shes playing with your feelings dont let her no how much she means to you anymore its OVER , if she wanted to get back with you she Knows she can Now thats the bottem line...Next time she contacts you act As you would towards a normal friend.. So hun you have mad the rite decision and stick to it or other girls will do the same ..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): WOW she sounds just like me...let me tell you a little about my situation---
I was with my BF for a little over a year (it was perfect), 8 months after we got together, I MET SOMEONE ELSE and was dating them both, i just broke up with my first BF 4 wks ago cuz i decided to keep the new guy. I like them both "A LOT"..but I MISS my first one sooo much, so i call him to let him know.(I whink i do it to make sure he doesnt stop loving me)in case it doesnt work out with the other person. Pretty selfish huh?
I also call him when i find out hes out with friends and females...TO LET HIM NOW HOW IT HURTS ME.
**so there you have it, i think she found someone else but wants to make sure you're still there (JUST IN CASE).........
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Well, she obviously cares about you if she gets upset that you might be dating someone else. At the same time maybe she's trying to get over you but you are making it too hard for her and so she tries being mean to you. I know that sounds strange but if she really feels like she's better without you then being mean might make you change your mind about wanting to continue to be with her. And if she keeps calling then maybe she just wants to be friends and you are pushing to hard to be together. But it sounds like she either just got bored of your relationship or she met someone new. I know it's sad but there will be a better woman out there for you who would never hurt you that way. Just push her out of your life the way she's doing to you, and if you really want her back after the way she has treated you then maybe she will realize that she made a mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Pick up the game man, use her own game against her, and if you want to be the better person, then, just confront her and or do not pay attention, if it still hurts then just pretend you do not care, and she will stop, don't let one person get you down, that just shows how weak you are, don't drop your gaurd
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