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writes:I don't seem to be finding the right guy. I'm always going out of my way for any guy I like, mind you they are always the ones chasing me at first, then when I get with them, they act like everything is fine and then just don't ever call again. It's happened three times which to top off my loneliness and boredom,there's never any explanation or argument even when they do the most ridiculous things ie: not call for days then drool all over me in my presence! I've gone through the 'checklist' of what it could be and still 'nothing', I blame myself secretly but don't know for what. At least if they gave some form of explanation or at least a sentence to say we shouldn't see each other anymore, at least I could have closure but nothing. One of them accepted a really expensive gifts, and like the one after him, asked why I was so good to him and the next day left. Another asked why I was so good to him, after helping him get himself together, kept vanishing for days at a time then when we're together is the most genuine person ever. It would be all be hilarious if I wasn't so hurt by it all. Whether I give them what they ask for or not...they leave! Now even though a lot of guys show interest I just refuse them. So I seem to be 'choosing' to stay single but with no choice. It's like being in 'Drew Barrymore's Fisrt 50 dates. Please help, I feel so desperately lonely, though no one knows because I'm very independent and giving. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Superrshawna,
It's a shame these guys are so immature and game filled. I guess they do really need to be played with tact. You're right it's always worked before. That's what they deserve..I don't remember when I decided to put away these tricks and just come clean... well the cards are turned on the other side from now on... It's GAME ON.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThenks Deema,
I think you're right. II guess I'll just be stern with any man I decide to date. Take care.
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 the chase is the fun part! it seems to me like you are wanting to be with someone too badly and are showing your cards too early! if they show interest, let them! play them a little! act coy, hard to get, let them know that you have other options. guys don't like girls that come easy. and for heavens sakes, don't give expensive gifts until you know they are worth it!
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