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writes:i am a gay man but i cannot get a partner, i go on chat date sites but no luck, i cannot go up to guys in the street and say i fancy you as they might be affended and punch me, my last partner left soem time agoso how i get a partner? Reply to this Question
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (23 March 2010):
Gay bars are good places to meet guys - without getting punched (generally).
If that's not available... you need develop a circle of friends. Those friends will know people... who know people... who know people. You'll eventually meet someone worth dating via these connections as well.
If you're trying to meet people on-line. Try spicing up your profile. Obviously, whatever's there isn't working. Look at other profiles for ideas. If you don't have any pictures... you need at least ONE. It's been proven that profiles without pictures... do NOT get looked at.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): You can certainly find other gay guys in supermarkets and libraries, but if you want to fast-track it a bit (which I suspect you do) the best way by far is to visit a gay bar, if there's one near you.
In every other social setting, 90-95% of men you meet will be straight. In a gay bar, you can be sure it's the other way around. By walking into one, you are making a statement: it's instantly obvious to other men that you're either gay or at least happy to be in gay company, and they're there for the same reason you are.
Get out there, at 36-40 your clock is ticking!
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reader, Gasolina  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 I agree with Victoria. The more people you meet, the more likely you are to meet that "special someone". So, get out there, and get involved in your community, or hobbies, or volunteering somewhere, or a sports or hiking club, or anything that you find fun and interesting. You'll make new friends, and you never know.... I met my sweetie at a jam at a friend's house.
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reader, VictoriaK +, writes (23 March 2010):
 I don't want to give you advice on how to "get" a partner, although I will give you advice on how to meet someone, that could be a potential partner. Try looking in everyday places for people that catch your eye. A supermarket, the library, maybe a coffee house. Strike up a conversation, don't immediately say, "I'm gay, and I like you" because that could make them feel uncomfortable. So, just walk up to someone who you think you could potentially be with, and ask him a question. "hey, how are you feeling about the weather today?" something that is neutral to talk about. You'll generally know if you want to continue a simple question into a conversation, and maybe get a phone number after the first few minutes.
Good Luck!!
Victoria
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