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female
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41-50,
*ollyp
writes:I am a very frustrated young woman. I have given my number to numerous men who never bother to call. In person, they seem very interested in me, but the moment I give out my number; I never get called. I want desperatlely to be in a casual relationship, but cannot get past the jerks out there in the real world. Help needed. Reply to this Question
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Do you just give them your number or do they ask for it. Honest, if I met you and we hit it off, and you gave me your number without me asking, I would not call.
Do not forget the laws of the jungle... The female leaves a scent, or makes the right moves to attract the male. The male DOES the work of tracking down the female. He does his happy dance to show his interest, and the FEMALE decides if she wants to mate with him.
Do not do a man's work for him. You are hot and sexy...Good. Now let him work for it. The hunt builds excitement. Catching the prey...That's just cherry on top.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): If you are offering the number and they don't call; then they were never really interested. If you are asked for your number and he doesn't call, then he isn't the one and it's a blessing that he didn't call; you don't need the trouble.
Sometimes, too, when you feel desperate to have something, somehow it shows through. It just does, unfortunately. So try to carry a take it or leave it attitude (but not as a B****). Go about showing you are quite happy and content in your life and not looking for a guy and then you'll get one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): I am going through the same thing. I am not needy, wear high heels, am classy etc. I am sorry this is happening to you too. i am to the point of not trying anymore. If a guy is interested they will pursue me I guess.
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reader, leebonk_  +, writes (10 August 2010):
don't give out your number too easily, men likes hard woman. tease them a little, wait for them to ask for your number, if they don't, they're not worth it.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Don't give your number out to men who don't ask for it.
Stop feeling desperate and frustrated, that is the energy you put out there and men can sense that like a dog senses fear or treats, lol.
Instead of relying on the bar scene to meet men where the drunks and players and married guys like to meet their prey. Get involved in life, have some interests and you will meet someone who shares your interests. Most relationships start when you least expect it and when you just meet someone and have an opportunity to get acquainted before exchanging phone numbers.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Ask for their number instead and see if they do the back stroke. Some men are just players.
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