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writes:How do u know if a girl likes you how long should u wait to ask her out? How do u handle guys flirting with her when ur not dating yet? I met this 13 year old girl about 2 weeks ago through her friend wich I dated for a day then we both realized we didn't belong together and I moved on to her friend we both liked eachother but she hasn't changed she isn't showing that her interest in me is going up we hung out for the first time recently and she was really quiet and almost like she wasn't interested but maybe she is just shy? I showed her a good time we went on top of a school and things it was a lot of fun she wouldn't hold my hand because she was afraid her sister would yell at her she says.. when I ask her she says she wants me to hold her and make out and all those things but yet when I asked her out in person after we had a great time together she said she had to think about it? She says she wants to get to know me for at least a month b4 we date how do I stay out of the friend zone and how do I know she isn't using me or playing me or something? sometimes I can tell she likes me other times it doesn't seem like it what should I look for? And how do I turn up the heat and make her attraction for me grow? How long should I wait to ask her out again? How do I know when she is ready? And what should I talk about with her to make her more sexually attracted so I don't end up just a friend I really like this girl but I generally move pretty fast how do I know she's not liing and she really wants to wait so our relationship lasts? I don't think she trust me yet how do I build that up? How can I tease her to open her up more so things are less akward? How often should we hang out? Or talk? So more tension builds but so she still feels i m interested in her I want to build up her attraction. So I know the next time I ask it will be a yes any help u could give me with this will be greatly apreciated thanks :)
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reader, leebonk_  +, writes (10 August 2010):
There are some girls who say things they want to do, but when it comes to it, even if they want it really badly they can't.From what i've read, it sounds a little like she needs some time, if she's ''shy'' it's likely for her not to be the mean type of girl. And if she was using you, she would have holden your hand, let you hold her, made out or whatever.You've only met this girl, i'd go with getting to know her, it's the way to seeing what she likes and what type of guys she flirts with. Maybe she'll turn out like nothing you expected. Talk to her about anything, but don't push it on anything sexual, if your going to tease do so, but make sure she has a smile on her face because as soon as that smile leaves she's offended. Just make sure you smell good, look good and that your a real man.Don't ask her out only when your 100% sure she likes you too, you'll definitely see it. Make friends with her friends. Don't go wrong.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Just think up fun places to go and ask her if she would like to come with you. If she always makes excuses not to go then she is not interested.
You really need to get to know her as a friend first before rushing in and holding hands, kissing etc...
Start out as friends and if thats going well then when you feel its the right time, just tell her how you feel about her but dont mention about making out or any of that or she will think you only want to use her.
I would wait about 3 - 4 weeks first though.
Any relationship at any age takes work from both sides.
Good luck dude!
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reader, Biglover  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Well i think you should just talk too her get too know her well ask her questions like her favorite color,food,favorite thing too do ect. questions like that,if you really want this girl you will learn too wait for her and know her i think you should just talk to her i think she likes you but is too shy too talk too you and since you cant stop other guys from flirting with her just try and get her too go out with you i hope this helps you :) p.s allways try and be there for her and talk about your problems and emotions allways defend her and protect her from any harm tell her she is beutiful and tell her you love her evry day because girls like too be treated nicely
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): Wait the month. It could be a hard wait but if your really meant to be together (your story sounds sweet) she'll come through at the end. If she really doesn't like you like that...she'll give up on you. You kind of just have to wait. But that doesn't mean you can't see her. Having fun with her can happen regardless of your status as a couple. Plus the more fun you have the more she'll see you'd make a good boyfriend and hopefully, the shorter the time before you go from friends to a couple will go.
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