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writes:We've been together for more than a year and a half, never really kissed, I avoid any form of physical contact with him yet I long for some form of intimacy. It's because I get uncomfortable whenever we get close but I completely trust him. I know it sounds strange but is there anything possibly wrong with me? by the way he's my first boyfriend. Reply to this Question
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reader, Triskaedeka102  +, writes (28 January 2009):
 Uhm, I am like you too actually. I am scared for physical intimacy, including kisses and hugs. That was when I was 22! then I realized that the guy was just not the right one. He was more of a friend, later I realized. So, there's two things that you may want to consider, first, is like what satindesire said about whether do you really want to be with him; second is just try little steps, for example, kiss his cheek (corny as that may sound), and be brave to tell him that you have a slow pace in intimacy :]Cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): Dating a guy this long with no intimacy (even kissing) is surprising to hear! So..are you saying that you long for physical intimacy, but not with him? Did I read it that way? I'm thinking that you do want intimacy, but maybe with someone else? Which is it?
This is just a guess...that you do like him, and you do trust him...but just as a good friend. So are you certain he's the guy for you? Doesn't sound like there is an attraction nor a spark between you both, in the way that you want it to be. If you have known him for a very, very long time and you both aren't affectionate, or heading down that path, then maybe you should not be dating him. But I could be wrong, here...and if I am, please write back and give us some more feedback
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