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writes: Help!My partner is 30, and seperated. They were married for 4 years, together 8, and he left her for me. It sounds like they weren't very compatible, and he just got carried along with things. Our relationship is secure, 2 years down the line.After having to attend a wedding recently, in the same venue where they got married, I keep crying and feel so frustrated.It feels like I will never be "the one", I worry about stupid things, If i find out all about their wedding so ours is different, it may mean I have to miss out on things Ive always dreamed of, like all girls. I break down when I think he's done it all before, said I do, said "on behalf of my wife and I" etc etc. I feel sick!Anyone got any ideas?Many thanks!
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (8 November 2006):
 hi there,
i think u need to make peace with the fact that if u marry him ur marriage will always be the second marriage but that it is not suppose to bother u bcos u knew when u met that he was married and he left his wife for u which means he loves u and want to be with u. accept that neither u nor him can change the past but u make ur future what u want it to be, so its up to u whether u wanna forget the past or let it haunt u and tarnish all ur hopes and dreams. i also think the reason u are crying ur eyes out its because subconciously wondering if he will leave u for another women as he left her 4u which really doesnt make sense as u cant predict the future. try to concentrate to things that makes u guys happy build more memories and dont compare ur relationship with the one he had with her as it will make things worse, learn to let things be after all u guys love each other.
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