A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I never really had a bad sexual experience but I am still really nervous in sexual situation. Sometimes I dread the idea of being sexual. I've never masturbated and have always preferred just kissing to other acts. I would rather give than receive when it comes to oral sex and other foreplay, and when having sex I feel like I'm not very good at it and that leaves me distracted. I am in a 4 years + relationship and at the most we have sex twice a month (even though we live together). Our busy schedules are mostly to blame but sometimes I get really nervous and uncomfortable when thinking about initiating sex. When I try to image sex with another man I get equally uncomfortable. I was with a woman in the past but didnt feel more or less comfortable with her. I have no interest in toys or anything like that. I just feel really non-sexual (unsexual? - dont know right phrasing, but asexual would not be the right way to describe it). I think like I should seek help but the idea of it makes me really scared. A part of me is not really bothered by it. Should I continue to be a sexless freak or should I make a change?
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (28 June 2008):
 Changes can be both good and bad. The fact that you went to a male from a femlae could maybe some of the problem. There are different ways of making love with each.
Masturbation is one way of becoming comfterble with sexual things and getting o know yourself. Maybe by exploring you own body will help.
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