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writes:Thank you guys for responding to my question:Is it normal for him to want other women?I'd love to hear what LIERON has to say-she seems pretty liberal about porn.I forgot to mention that he masturbates to porn daily, sometimes more, when is porn watching considered an addiction?The other women thing he says is simply "live porn"So, my question, is masturbating to porn daily, watching it during sex and wanting prostitutes for live porn an addiction??
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (28 June 2008):
 Porn is something that some people enjoy intensely. And like anything that people enjoy intensely, it can become an addiction for some people. For most, it's no more than a bit of pleasure.
It's far less addictive than most of the illegal drugs. It's probably far less addictive than drinking alcohol, and definitely far less addictive than smoking. It may well be far less addictive than distance running or similar heavy exercise.
Wanting other women is quite another matter. It might be relatively normal to have a desire for other women, but if it becomes a need, then there is definitely something badly wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): I would say the fact that he can't go a day, or even hours as you say, without it means he's addicted. I would never want to be with a guy who was that into it, but that's me.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (28 June 2008):
 An addiction is when you can't do without something, although by that definition we are all addicted to air. So that doesn't work if you want to be pedantic about it.
Another definition that is often used is for addictions/fetishes. If it gets in the way of leading a normal productive life as part of society then it ain't right.
This again gives problems, for instance being the wrong race in a racist society gets in the way of leading a normal productive life.
What I am trying to get across here is that "normal" behavior is very subjective. If all men beat their women then beating women is normal.
So about porn. If he can't life without it anymore if he can't be with a woman with porn then yes, I would say he has a problem. Whether it classifies as addiction or a fetish is hard to say.
You have to remember that even the professionals differ in their opinion.
You might say that his desires get in the way of the relationship with you. BUT you might equally say that your objections are getting in the way of a relationship with him.
Basically, choose. Him and his porn that might never go to the levels you are comfortable with OR dumping him and being alone until you find someone who is compatible with you.
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