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writes:Hey all! So I've joined a dating website and have been approached by many people. I like the attention and getting dates is not the problem. Its going on them. I get cold feet a day before a date or when a guy fixes a date. I stop talking and just cut out. I really want to go on a date because I've met some really nice people on here but I'm scared that they may not like what I look like in person or something. I mean its not like I have fake pictures put up on my profile, so not that I'm lying about anything. I'm just so scared! I don't know how to get over this fear, any advice would be appreciated ASAP!!! Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (3 September 2013):
You know, the guys are probably nervous as well. There doesn't seem any logical reason on why you should put more effort into backing out of the dates so this seems more like a bad habit to me. It is something you just have to overcome because the only person who will suffer for it, is you. If you can't do online dating then maybe you are just not cut out for it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 September 2013):
What are you really scared off? Rejection? Or meeting new people?
Why not stick to short dates? Like a lunch/coffee date? It shouldn't be as intimidating as a longer movie/dinner date.
Either that or stop looking for guys til you feel READY t overcome this fear/shyness/anxiety.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (2 September 2013):
 I think the problem may be that the guys you're meeting are strangers and that's scary.Try to get to know them or chat for a bit on the phone before you meet for a date then you'll have a better idea of who you are meeting.For the actual date, you'll just have to take the plunge. If you haven't lied on your profile and your pic is really you, then you have nothing to worry about.Of course there is no guarantee that you will both "click" but you never know, that's what makes it exciting.Please remember, looks aren't everything and beauty has to be more than skin deep.A good sense of humour with a caring and considerate nature would make the plainest of people attractive.Have a great time on your next date.AB x
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