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writes: My partner and I have been together for about 10 months. Our relationship is fantastic, other than one thing. About 2 months ago a girl started texting him (it was a friend of his ex). She made it clear that she is keen on him and is constantly trying to get him to meet her. Apparently she has got it through her head that he is not interested but yet she still continues to text her. I hate it. I have told my partner that I don't like it and that I don't want him texting her. He said he would stop. He did for a short time but started texting her again. She texts him every day. Once again I have expressed how much it upsets me. But he won't stop. I haven't laid down the law and told him he must stop, as that is his choice. I just don't see why he has to text her, especially when he knows it upsets me.On top of that one of my male friends (who was there long before my partner) confessed that he liked me more than friends. Of course I told my partner and from then on he didn't like me seeing him or talking to him. Because it became an issue I discontinued the friendship.So one set of rules for him and one set for me.Please help. What do I do?
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (17 November 2005):
 Well, if he's not willing to give up texting this lady, then let him know that you will start talking to your friend again. It's not fair to you that you follow these rules, but he don't abide by them as well. He's no better than you and this is almost the same situation as you were in. There is no reason for him to be texting this girl. Let him know that it's either you or her. You don't appreciate him talking to some girl that is trying to get him and you're not going to deal with it. If there is nothing about this girl that he likes, he don't need to be texting her.
You definitely don't need to deal with this. There are other people out there that will respect your wishes and would love to make you happy. You gave up a really good friend for this guy and he can't give up some girl for you? What the hell is that saying about this guy? I don't honestly think it's worth all the trouble if he don't want to respect you as you've done for him.
You should most likely law down the law on this situation and let him know that you are serious. Don't let him continue this behavior and get away with it. If he don't respect that this upsets you, then make an ultimative and stick with it.
Good luck! I hope things get better for you and this guy wisens up and realizes what he has, instead of realizing it after you are gone. You seem to be a very good catch and very honest and that's the best qualities you could have in a relationship. He should be so lucky:)
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