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writes: Hey people, I met my best mate 2 years ago and our personalities clicked instantly. Even though I've never thought of him as a bf I still love him to pieces as a friend, and he feels the same way about me. *Jamie and I are the kinda mates that dont let anything come between us, but recently he's started to say things that really hurt me and he probably doesn't realise it. The only way I can describe it is that he's being a bitch and I can't stand it anymore. Example, he walked over to me in biology the other day and said "I don't mean to be cheeky, but you've been really getting on my nerves this week". WHAT CAN YOU SAY BACK YO THAT?? My insides sank as he said it and now I feel like I can't tell him anything or believe anything he says! plz plz help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, 1stlovesince2003 +, writes (18 November 2005):
You should ask him what is it that gets on his nerves so bad about you. And try to work through it. Don't let the things that he tells you get you down, because he could just be taking things out on you or maybe he is just stressed from something?? who knows.. but just try to talk to him and see what could be bothering him about you...talking is always the best thing to do when you dont understand something
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (17 November 2005):
 Communicate your feelings! If someone says something that hurts you, don't sit by and let it go! I am not saying to have an all out war over it. There is nothing wrong with saying "What is it that I have done to bother you?" or even "So that we don't have problems in the future can you tell me how I have been getting on your nerves?" Anything but staying silent. If this is trully your best mate you should be able to find out what you have done that offended or bothered this person, and they should not only understand why you want an explanation but also show some remorse for the way they told you this. The only way to prevent people from treating you like you are a door mat is to stand up and assert yourself in a calm and mature manner.
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