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writes:Hey everyone!So recently I lost my virginity. Well in doing so I gave him a bl-wjob. I'll be honest, it hurt! So much but then after, I went down on him. He broke the hymen so I did bleed a lot. Ok so the question is, will there be any problems of me basically sucking my own blood off of his penis? (STD,HIV,STI??) he did ejaculate and I swallowed. It wasn't as bad as other people say(just saying). So please answer my question. Should I get myself checked? Yes he's experienced before me so he's not a virgin.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 August 2015):
 Yes, you should have an STI test done. You just had unprotected sex, and losing virginity, to put it bluntly, causes an open wound when the hymen is torn. The BJ is beside the point...his fluids connecting with your open wound is the real risk. He may have ejaculated in your mouth, but pre-ejaculatory fluid was copious and most definitely in contact with your broken hymen as well as your vagina.
Maybe this is my opinion, but a guy who takes a girl's virginity and then expects her to suck her blood off of him is a jerk. I don't know why that bothers me so much, but it does. Losing virginity is a very emotional moment, and not the most pleasant one when there's pain. But when you're with the one you love, it's also emotionally powerful. I'm not judging you at all, OP. You are an adult with choices, but I can't help feeling bad you were with a guy who put you at risk and then had you do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2015): So we can assume you used no condom, for both having sex with him and giving him a blow job. Your own blood from your body is fine (although can't see that being appealing for many people). The issue is even if he didn't ejaculate whilst having sex with you he could have given you any STI or disease. Although the chances are slim, you could also get pregnant (are you using any other birth control - or did this guy fob you off and you just take the risk?)So yes you need an examination, you will need STI and HIV checks done. Before you do anything unprotected with a guy (even if you're on the pill, have an IUD or implant or have the contraceptive injection) then you should know he doesn't have anything. He has slept with other people before you, and you don't know how many other people those girls have slept with...so getting tested and proving to each other you're "clean" is a must when starting a relationship with someone.If you're ready for sex you can't shy away from getting tested. Go book an appointment and tell your man that he needs to get tested himself, and prove to you he has, before you do more with him.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (8 August 2015):
I’m not being funny, but are you really ready to be having sex of any kind when you lack such a basic knowledge of sexual health? WhenCowsAttack is right: the risk does not come from your own blood. You can’t have a STI because you were a virgin, and unless you are a drug user who shares needles it’s a pretty safe bet you’ve not got HIV either. The risk is him. Has he been tested? Do you know that he is disease-free? It’s important that you use condoms, always.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, mfj78 +, writes (8 August 2015):
Your an adult now and part of being an adult is taking responsibility for your well being and making informed choices.
With that in mind it would have been better to research this before engaging in sexual acts.
Your blood was on his penis? That suggest a condom was not used. Yes you should get tested for infections as sex without a condom is unsafe and he clearly has had sex before, possibly without a condom, so there is a risk of infection.
I hope you were wise enough and mature enough to use some kind of birth control and not rely on him pulling out before he ejaculated? That would be a receipt for pregnancy!
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (8 August 2015):
The danger is not in sucking your own blood. Your body is already full of your own blood! Whatever disease you could get from it you already have!
The danger is in you swallowing his semen and giving him head without a condom. That is how you get STDs, from unprotected sex with other people. If your blood was on his penis that means you didn't use a condom for sex either, and could have gotten an STD that way too, or have gotten pregnant (yes, even if he didn't cum inside you- sperm can be in pre ejaculate also).
So YES, get tested now, but not because of your own blood! And you need to do research on safe sex BEFORE you have it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2015): Well if you didn't use a condom for the act and he just used the pull out method get checked for stis
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2015): If you sucked your own blood off, you'd already *have* the STD....
Anyway, you should get tested because you don't know if he's clean of STDs. Did you use condoms and other birth control? If not, you need to get a pregnancy test or take the morning after pill if it's within 72 hours of when you had sex.
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