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writes:I've been dating a guy for a bit more than a month, but due to our history, it feels longer, and it's influencing my behaviour. ---Basically, most of my friends are guys, and I was therefore always surrounded by a bunch of guys wherever I went. Some of those guys would develop feelings for me, and though I DESPISED doing it, I had to let them down. I wasn't sure of my feelings, because Im a cynic, and I also wanted my first relationship to be meaningful (I'm 15). Well, there was this one guy, that I got intensly close with, and when he asked me out, I would have said yes, if it wasn't for the fact that my parents were SEVERELY against him. So I let him go. My feelings remained, but I controled them by convincing myself that I was crushing on some other guy (with whome I had no chances) to get my mind off him. Over the summer, I managed to control myself, and he (having been out of the country) had a couple of flings, including one to which he lost his virginity. But anywho, during the ensuing school year, we started getting really really close again, to the point where I was so sick of the emoions churning within me, that I gave him my first kiss for his birthday (we weren't together yet).Eventually, we had gotten so physically and emotionally close, that I broke, and asked him out, keeping our relationship a secret from my parents. About 3 weeks into our official relationship, I was at his house (my parents thought that I was watching a movie with friends), and I caved in to temptation, and gave him oral sex. ---Was it too soon? Because now, our relationship is quite sexual, and I'm not very comfortable with telling him that I want to go slower. I feel like we don't even talk much anymore, because most of the time, we're doing something physical. I don't want to tell him to stop, because then I'll feel like I am depriving him, and being a bad girlfriend. I think I'm the clingier one in the relationship, so I'm usully the one starting the fluffy cuddles and things. Am I being too easy? Am I being too clingy? I'm really unsure of what to do so that I can be the 'model girlfriend', while still keping my moral values.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): Yeah, sorry to break it to you, but it sounds like you're being used. You're being used so hard
Tell him, and just maybe break it off.
Same thing happened to my girlfriend 2 years ago and Im still dealing with her emotional troubles of being used.
Save yourself before its too late
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 You should not try to fit into any molds, that's a sure way to bring disappointment to yourself and your relationship. Be yourself. Do not feel guilty about wanting to go slower, just tell him, but reassure him you still really like him.
Was it too soon? That depends on how you feel about it. Do you regret it? If so, then yes, but that doesn't change anything, so it's probably best to think about what you can control, don't you think?
Remember, be yourself. If you try to be someone you aren't, you're just setting yourself up for failure. The best girlfriend is one who is true to herself.
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reader, AndSxy2 +, writes (18 April 2011):
First of all, you are just 15 yrs old, therefore, you should not be having oral sex with anyone. I suggest you to just stop completely. Your body is your temple and you should treasure it like it's the most precious gift around. If he likes you, he would appreciate you even more. Not only that, he is young, as so as you, and you will not be the only female that he will be intimate with. Live your life, enjoy your youth cause you only have one life to live and it goes by so fast.
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