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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I was hoping to get some advice about a love problem I have. I had a fling with a guy from work which lasted about a month. He then said he did not want to continue, which upset me because I really fell for him and in fact I am in love with him but he does not return the favour. I told him that was still available if he changed his mind. In the meantime, I put a friend up at my place because she had just come over from our country (eastern europe) and she was staying with me. She knows how much in love I am with this guy and how sad I was about it all but she went ahead, months later and had an affair with him. The thing is that he is married anyway but he says his marriage is over and he and his wife only stay for the small children. He is the manager at my friends place of work. I am very upset with my friend but she does not seem to see that she has done anything at all disloyal. She got fed up with him and anyway said she does not want to be with a married man who cannot treat her like a queen. I refuse to speak to her now and she says I am unreasonable about it. I am upset and I feel they have both been disloyal towards me. She was staying at my place for some time but I didnt't know about their affair until a few months later. He has been buying her presents like an expensive watch and things which he never bought me. I am more annoyed with my friend and I wonder do you think I am being unreasonable about this situation? I feel like I dont want to talk to either of them, mostly her in fact. Thanking you for your time.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (3 June 2009):
 you know what i think is hilarious about this is she did to you what you did to his wife so in reality the boot is on the other foot now isnt it. it is never a good thing to sleep with someone who is married no matter what they say unless they are getting a divorce just stay away because of one simple fact if he can cheat on his wife then he will cheat on you. your putting the blame on your friend but its all about him. if you want some common sense and dignity walk from the both of them and never make the same mistake all i see is fate kicking you in the ass and its just one big circle. she did to you what you did to his wife and the only one who is winning is him. and its stupid you could do so much better than a cheating man with no morals. go out live life and find someone who wants you and not who he can get into bed other than his wife dont be a side order be the queen you deserve. good luck aphex xx
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