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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello,For six months ago I sometimes saw a guy on a dance class.And during the summer I saw this guy in a zumba lesson somewhere else. I always go to a group training zumba. I stay always in the front and this guy always stays beside me, but he never looks at me, as if I am not there. We dont talk either. After several times I talked to him. And he was very nice, but yesterday my "friend" that stood beside me interrupted us and talked to me. (this "friend" is new in the zumba lesson. (before she never stood beside me). This "friend" said before that she feel lonely and wants to get to know me and others.)At the end of the training, we had some pauses between the songs, and in these pauses this guy looked at my friend a little smiling and saying OMG (he means that he is tired) and my friend says ooohh(se means that she is tired).But he never looked at me, only once. The class ended.After 30 minutes, this guy saw me and he by himself started to talk to me. I felt that he is interested. Then my friend come and we three talked. He also asked if we two knew each other since before. I and the guy talked to each other about something. Then my friend left us but waiting for me to come, so we ended the conversation.Now, I found this guy on fb. But I wonder shall I add him? If I do, he will know that I searched for him to find him especially that I only know his first name and not surname. I dont want to seem desperate or interested in front of him since I dont know if he is interested. We only talked once, as I wrote above. So shall I add him or wait to see if he likes me? And if I add him. He will wonder how I found him. So what shall I write to him about how I found him? I dont want him to think that I am desperate or that I like him.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 September 2014):
 IF you contact him on Facebook you don't think he will GUESS that you MUST have looking high and low to find him because YOU like him? OR at least because you are interested? It think it would be JUST a little OBVIOUS that you are interested.
So either DO NOT play coy or....
WHY not ask him out for coffee after dance class?
You have talk to him, he has talked to you. Coffee is not a date or coming off as desperate. It's a couple of people going for coffee (or whatever) after a dance class...
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