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writes: I think my boyfriend may be cheating on me as a few weeks ago i was sending a text from his mobile phone and before you pick the number you want to sent it to it gives you the last few numbers you have texted and i noticed there was a girls name that i didnt know. I know all of his friends and work mates, then the other day he was sending a text and i happened to see it when he was sitting next to me and ihe sent it to a 5 digit number which i think must be a chat room as all mobile numbers are 11 digits long. I want to talk to him about it but he will go off on one and accuse me of checking up on him when i havent. He has also became very secretive with his phone he takes it everywhere with him as before he would leave it sitting while he went for a shower now he takes it with him. I have never checked his phone(hes checked mine before) and hes became distant with me i have asked him why and he says its because he has been tired. i dont know wot to do please help
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reader, gungass +, writes (13 July 2006):
The basic point here is why can she not trust him anyway.
the simple fact bein that mobile fone address books should be respected as private and personal and therefore treat as such.
another pointer for distrust is Why would he be secretive if there was nothing to hide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): its me again lol the lassie tht wrote this question lol i should really get an account lol anyway after he txted this 5digit number he write down a mobile number n he left it in his room while he went downstairs n i saved the number to my phone should i ring it to find out if its a male or female and who it is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): You see the signs and you know that he is hiding something. The only choice you have now is 1) pretend ignorant and let him take advantage of you and end up being dumped down the road. 2) ask him and make him make a choice. 3) confront him. realize that you can still save your self esteem and tell him goodbye. Real men want women who respect themselves, not women who let them dupe them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): ok well i have had a close experience to the one you did. except in mine the girl who texted him was on one side of me and the guy on the other side when i read the text. i can't exactly tell you that he is not cheating but what i can tell you is that you need to confront him. the worst thing you can do is use a accusatory voice then he will think you are chaecking up. in my case the girl was my best friend and i hope that you are just paranoid but just try to confront him. i hope all turns up well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): i'm the lassie tht wrote this question, i thought about askin him who she was but thought maybe he would tell me as he normally tells me everything. i do have trust in him this is the 1st time i've ever had paranoid thoughts about him. i know if i ask him about it he will go off on one and i dont want that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): Why didn't you jokingly say "Who's [her name] then?" when you were sending the text?
You would then have been able to tell straight away if there was something more suspicious about it by juding his reaction.
Borrow his phone again and when you send the text if you see the name, just ask him.
I guess I don't need to tell you it's not really a good sign that you see a girls name who you don't know and you assume that he might be cheating on you. My past girlfriends have never known EVERYONE who is in my phone, and if they had used my phone, saw a name they didn't recognise then I would expect them to just ask who they were and I'd tell them!
I think you need to get this sorted out straight away as you need to be able to trust your boyfriend, ie not having paranoid thoughts everytime he takes his phone with him. If not, things will just get worse. Have trust in him and ask, hopefully it'll turn out to be just a misunderstanding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): Why didn't you jokingly say "Who's her name then?" when you were sending the text?
You would then have been able to tell straight away if there was something more suspicious about it by juding his reaction.
Borrow his phone again and when you send the text if you see the name, just ask him.
I guess I don't need to tell you it's not really a good sign that you see a girls name who you don't know and you assume that he might be cheating on you. My past girlfriends have never known EVERYONE who is in my phone, and if they had used my phone, saw a name they didn't recognise then I would expect them to just ask who they were and I'd tell them!
I think you need to get this sorted out straight away as you need to be able to trust your boyfriend, ie not having paranoid thoughts everytime he takes his phone with him. If not, things will just get worse. Have trust in him and ask, hopefully it'll turn out to be just a misunderstanding.
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