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writes:i have just found out that my fiance of 14 years, has just slept with his cousin - who he has been re-united with after 20 years. i am very hurt and sickened and want to know if they can be charged, by Law for Incest. Please advise
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): I agree with dearkelja here.
As far as I know, no European country prohibits marriage between first cousins. There is not much you can do to prosecute, except maybe adultery.
That might even be a shady area because he is merely your fiance, not even your husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): cousins having sex is not incest. parents children, G.Parents G.Children, brothers sisters,uncle niece, Aunt nephew, sexual relation is incest.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 Hi, I am sure you are hurt, and would like to have some sort of revenge, but it is not against the law, to have sex with your cousin. The only problem comes, when they have children and the children are affected by the inbreeding.
Back to your other problems, why have you stayed with him for fourteen years without getting married? Maybe it is good, now that I think about it, that you don't have to get a divorce. Unless, you are going to decide to stay with him. He had sex with his cousin, this lady will always be his cousin, and you will always know that they had sex. How
do you get around this little fact at family reunions? I don't think, no, I know that I would be so gone, the only thing that would be left, would be the smell of my perfume.
You guy had no consideration for your relationship, he slept with his cousin, how destructive is that? It's is one
thing to sleep with another person, but when it is a family member, this is a permanent memory. Think about why you would want to stay with him, he has literally slapped you in the face, with this act and for you to even think about forgiving him, makes me think he will do other things, because, you are going to allow it, with no repercussions.
Find a guy who respects you, and you must repect yourself.
Good luck to you in all you do. Take care.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (6 June 2008):
 if you take out the whole cusin issue, i think we can see some other issues here. 1st why did he? has your relationship been bad. 2nd is this the first time he cheated and for that matter was there something going on between him and his cousin 20 years ago. 3rd if youv been together for 14 years why arnt you married yet?
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (6 June 2008):
 Why would it matter if he could or not. Would it change anything between you? Are you going to stay with him but just wondering if he'll be gone for a few weeks? Or did you want to press charges to get back at him.
When you are an adult, sexual matters are really a private matter. Very doubtful that any state or government would prosecute something like this. Where's the proof? It's all hearsay.
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