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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everybody. I have a problem and I am hoping to get some perspective. Today at work I opened my browsing history and was shocked to the core when I saw that my boss, (who was alone in the office on Saturday) had been looking at porn on my computer. The words he googled clearly indicate he has sick fantasies about me. I was so creeped out and sick to my stomach, because I had had such a high opinion about him, he is much older than me, a family man, adores his kids and I though he was a really good and decent person. He has always treated me with a lot of respect, and I thought he had fatherly feelings towards me. And now this idea of him I had is completely shattered. I don't know why he didn't delete the browsing history, he is not very good with computers, maybe he doesn't even know about it, or maybe he wanted me to find it.Now I am so confused, i don't know what to think. Quitting my job is not an option for now, I am going to leave the company hopefully in February. Can somebody please give me some advice on how to deal with this, I would really appreciate it. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2012): OP here. Thank you for your answers. Yes, he owns the company (it is very small) and we share an office and he sometimes uses my computer. I'm also the only female employee. As I said, he treats me with respect and our relationship has always been very formal and professional. That is why I was so shocked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2012): People aren't what they seem, most of the time. I've especially noticed this with guys. The "nice guys" like the one you described are actually the biggest perverts. I learned this the hard way myself.
Anyhow, you shouldn't have to go to work everyday uncomfortable. You need to talk to someone about it. He had no business looking that stuff up while in the office, anyway. Alone or not, it is inappropriate. Is he the owner of the company? Is there someone over his head you can talk to? If so, maybe you should. Let him explain to his family he got fired for looking up porn on his employee's computer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2012): In most work place it is against the company policy to download porn or view porn on computer time and property. I woul dbe ver careful and keep date of when he was in the office as you could get fired. I would look for another job and leave, also state my reason for resignation.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (25 September 2012):
 That's a tough one! But you know, there are all kinds of sick people in the world and you never really know what people are thinking and who they are inside.
Obviously you cant leave every company that you work in because there is no dearth of creeps in the world and they're there everywhere. You can confront him about this but chances are that he'll deny everything and turn the tables on you and blame for trying to seduce him or some such nonsense. All you can do is, be very formal with him, no personal talks of any kind, don't ever be alone with him in a room and try not to engage in any conversation that he tries to pull you into. Keep it strictly professional and always tell yourself that you wont be here forever. You are quitting next year and that's the last you'll see of him. If he tries to act smart in ANY way, inform the higher authorities immediately.
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