A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hello everyone ... 5 months ago my boyfriend of 2 years and i broke up ... about a month and half ago i started dating someone new .. well the problem is i just had a check up and i was told that i have clamydia ... i must of caught it from my ex cause i know that he attempted to cheat and lord knows he would have had more than oppertunity .. i had a check up back in oct-nov the doc . told me nothign was wrong with me expect a yeast infection .. turns out fail diagnosis .. i tried to explain this to my new bf ... he doesnt believe me .. he thinks that when he left for his training for 2 weeks that i cheated ... wich i swear on my kids life i didnt .. how can i get him to believe me ? i really love this guy but he wont believe me .. we have been fighting and now im afraid he will leave me .. what can i do ? i did tell him about cause i was afraid that he might of gotten it from me ..
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reader, mollypop  +, writes (3 June 2012):
 you could havve gotten it from your current boyfriend......
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (24 May 2012):
Ultimately, you need to put him on the spot and ask him whether he trusts you or not. Chlamydia often shows no symptoms, and therefore you can have it for a long time without realising it. You could have got it from any sexual partner, even him, if you had sex with him before the checkup at which you were diagnosed. Has he been checked too? He needs to get himself checked. But, knowing that it’s perfectly plausible that you got Chlamydia but weren’t unfaithful to him, he needs to explain to you why he doesn’t believe that. If he’s aware that, on medical grounds, your story stacks up, challenge him to explain where his doubts come from. If he still won’t believe you once you’re certain that he understands the medical plausibility of your story, your problems go a lot deeper than a sexually transmitted infection, he doesn’t trust you. You’ll have to give serious thought to whether you can be with some-one who doesn’t believe you, and you’ll have to demand that he changes his ways or be prepared to walk away from the relationship.I wish you all the very best.
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