| A
female
age
,
*therworld
writes: oh my God, it's happened to me.what do you say, cupid, about a 42 year old man who lied to me about being 'amicably divorced', then sob story when i found out he is still married, promises 'he's mine' and 'he's prayed for me'..then i go to call a freind and he's been on the phone with his WIFE twice in the last ten days, NEVER mentioned this to me-what do i do? we've been together for six months, three of them i had no idea he was married...i have no set response, do NOT want to tell him i saw her number on the cell phone, do not want to appear needy-scary when they lie, but are there exceptions as to why i should consider?help.otherworld
View related questions:
divorce Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (11 December 2006):
 Ok.....well first of all I don't understand.
He's married....and he's talking to his spouse....the one he's married to. And your jealous.....because he lied and told you he was not married? And three months after finding out he IS married....you are surprised that he would fail to mention that he is still Speaking to the person he IS married to?
I mean even if they are getting a divorce....they have to talk.....decide who has to take great aunt Millie's ashes and decide who gets the ugly couch and who gets the ugly coffee table......and who gets the dog who chewed up the chair that matched the couch.
wake up call to you.
This is only the very beginning. They may be separated.....but Married will require a great deal of conversation and if you are not ready to deal with a hurricane of crap.....Get out now. Because he's probably lying to the spouse too...and you may find you don't actually exist in his real life yet. Slip out before your stuck there if you can.....he's already treated you less than up front....that will be a pattern....
love being lied too or look beyond this guys horizon.
A
female
reader, broken_in _2 +, writes (10 December 2006):
 Hey
Look I know this seems pretty bad but what you should do is go up to him and ask him whats going on. Dont ask him why that is the worst question to ask in any situation. Just ask him whats going on and if he lies tell him you know what hes been doing behind you back and everything will start rolling out of his mouth. Hope I helped. And keep in touch if you want.
Broken_in_2
...............................
|
