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writes:My boyfriend of 2 months (that I was really starting to fall for) cheated on me with his ex girlfriend. They are friends and have been since they broke up. I found them in bed together today. He said they went out and got really drunk, so drunk that he doesn't remember having sex (or so he says) he's not denying that they didn't. He tells me that he doesn't care for her that way, he says they are just friends and made a bad decision due to alcohol. He said he wants me back and wants to be with me. However I asked him if he would be willing to give up talking to her and he said he didn't know if he could do that. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): DUMPED HIM.SAY YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR SCUM BAG LIKE HIM
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reader, schristinar85 +, writes (23 March 2009):
 To the previous post, R U KIDDING? no nooky for a month? That's rediculous! She should never have sex with him again! For him to cheat on her and betray her like this, then on top of that, say he's not sure if can stop talking to her?!?!?! Honey, u need to move on! This guy is a disrespectful prick. He does NOT deserve u! I know it's scary to break up with someone you care about. You're scared to be alone. I know what it feels like. But u CAN do better. I promise u that.
xoxo, Sarah
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reader, Jason means Healer  +, writes (23 March 2009):
Nothing's wrote in concrete about whether this could work out or not.
His story is feasable, alchohol is a terrible deinhibitor and we do terrible things when under it's influence.
The quickness with which he cheated on you is barely compensated for by the fact it's his ex, and so; of course, familiarity is an all too easy comfy slippers to get back into.
But he blatantly went out with an ex, got drunk and then cheated on you.
Somehow, someway; he needs a sting.
Couldn't tell you what.
Don't give him any nooky for a month.
And be pissed off with him.
Real pissed off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): No, don't take him back. He wants to continue talking to his ex, who you caught him in bed with. Him telling you that he doesn't remember means that they did have sex. He'll continue being friends with her, getting drunk and ending up in bed together.
I think you should move on while things are good. If you stay, you'll fall harder. Get out now.
Sounds like you're the extra guest at this table.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): After what has just happened, he has to do that in order to keep you (if you're smart you will give him an ultimatum) drunkeness doesn't excuse infidelity! Why was he out with her and not you?
It is difficult to accept your boyfriend's female friends but once they cross the line, it is impossible! How can he expect you to accept their friendship after what you witnessed??????
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (23 March 2009):
 Okay first this guy sounds like a dick and just because he was drunk doesn't mean it's an excuse and why was he drinking with HER? and if he can't give up talking to her to have you it doesn't seem like he wants you but if you really love him then you can put this all behind you but it might not be the best idea.
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