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*ookiemon77
writes:Hi,I had a situation with my husband a while back about a women and some lies that he had told me. We tried to fix the situation as best as we could and moved on with our lives. It still hurts once in a while but I try to not let it bother me. But, the other day my husband left his e-mail open on my computer and I saw an old e-mail that confirmed everything that he had lied to me about and denied to me. It made me really angry, I wasn't going to say anything because I really wanted to put it past me. But, I took the oportunity to send him an e-mail from his account just leting him know that I had seen that message and what I thought of it. I also told him that I really didn't want to talk about it anymore just wanted him to think about somethings that I had mentioned and how it made me feel and that was it so I could put it past me. I also told him that I really didn't want to always find stuff but when I did yes I would be upset until time pasted and it would no longer bother me anymore. My question is did I do the right thing? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 March 2011):
 You are not over it. It's still on your mind. I would sit him down and explain how YOU can not move past something if you don't have the fact/truth.
I don't know how you can live with a guy you can not trust at all. Give it a few years and all that stuff swept under the rug will be so huge you can't see past it.
Time for spring cleaning. Personally, he would be one of the first "things" to go.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 March 2011):
 SY is exactly right. If you tell him his bad behavior will always be eventually forgiven and forgotten, what's his incentive to straighten up and fly right? Hell, by keeping the email around, he's not even trying to cover his tracks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): You have done the right thing, let him decide what he want but you too be good with him, so that he may understand you and your love
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (9 March 2011):
 You should not be telling him that the wrong things he does upset you, but in time, they will not bug you any more. He will not learn anything from that except, he can do what he wants, because you will always take him back and make it work with him.
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