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writes:i'm from tennessee, i just moved to new york to be closer to my mom. i met this guy up here, we started talkin and hanging out...ended up gettin serious fast..in the mean time, not ready to settle down i was Texting other ppl also not thinkin anything about it...well one day while my now boyfrien was stayin at my house he went thru my phone seein that i talk to other guys...i reassured him i would stop that i only wanted him, we started dating then. a month later he went thru my facebook seein that i still talk to some guys but nothing more than everyday conversation. he says that i ruined his trust but he is Willin to give me another chance...i deleted my facebook and any guys numbers i had so he would believe i wasn't talking to anyone. but still 3months later he tells me everyday that he'll never be able to trust me..that i don't show him i care? that i need to prove to him i do....how do you prove that?! we fight constantly! but yet i love him with all my heart, i still have yet to talk to another guy and have no intention on doing so... but nothing i do or say can convince him that i'm being honest. we just found out i'm pregnant and now every tiny thing is a fight!! i don't know what i should do. i tell him on a daily how much he means to me..but he says actions speak louder than words...what should i do?! my emotions are wack! and when we fight it pushes me away from him. he says i'm to blame for his anger...that if i never talked to anyone he Wouldn?t break stuff everyday he Wouldnt be so mean to me. i don't know what to do anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit's control. i see it more and more with each fight but i'm still not strong enough to walk away...when we fight he blames me for His anger for the things he breaks im to blame. he tells me he's done to get out but then takes my keys and phone and hides them screaming to me i'm not leaving...he says he does that so i won't walk out of his life but if? that's the case he Wouldn?t have told me to leave right? one night i finally decided i had enough and left he called me? 67 times in 10min.and when i talked to him he threatened to kill himself if? i didn't return. i had never heard him so scared before so i came back. we've fought everyday since. how can i get strong enough to get out?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): He is trying to control you, talk to him and decide if you want,if you decide for while he will change but be truthful with him and also ask where he is loosing trust and give him confidence again so that he may trust you and finally so these messages if he can surely he may believe what you are going through
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Is it jealousy or is he trying to control your every move?
It's not like you ever cheated on him so you need to find out where this rage is coming from. Like did someone cheat on him before you? Eitherway you need to tell him "look I'm having your baby and its not good for me or the baby to be stressed out like this all the time". The health of the baby has to come first. If he can't go that then he probably won't be a good father or husband. I think you may need a backup plan just in case the situation does not improve.
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