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writes:i have been going out with this 24 years old girl from foreign country for 6 months now. she got 8 years old daughter which she gave birth during her young and innocent age. then she leave her country to my coutry and work in pub as a PR and never went back to her country till recently.for the pass 6 years she have been together with this guy and they have 2 kids now both age 2 and 4. i got to know her after her guy dump her, i'm pretty much know about her pass now and was once being paranoid of wat kinda of job or how she work as a PR here before but i've eventually got over it.we have sex very frequent and yes we both enjoy sex very much, there was a night when we was having sex, she volunteer her self to let me go in her anal, i was amazed and happy (i've never done b4), she was on top and tried pretty hard to get me into her anal and i saw the pain expression on her face while i was going in, so we failed on the first time.2 weeks ago we were both reading on the bed and i start touching her and all, she decided to let me try again, it did it this time. it was wonderful and i enjoy it very much, she told me she did it cause she love me and she knew that i will love it. she said it was special to her, and it was her first time... so i believe and until one day i found out a video clip in her email trash can, a short sex video clip of them 2 which was sent by her ex-guy, it is painful to see that although it was her pass, the worst part is i found that that they were having anal intercourse in that video! i'm very depressed now and just cant get the picture of the video out of my head... i felt cheated and hated... what should i dosorry for my bad english...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): Gee it is kind of hard for someone to say for sure that it went there unless there was a close up shot. Those places are pretty close in location.She had two kids with the guy so what.She probably did more stuff with other people.This guy is probably mad that you are doin his baby's momma and is trying to piss you off and ruin it.The foreign guy might have planned it a long time ago like blackmail.Eventually the image will fade as long as you don't keep watching over and over.You could always make your own video and send it back.Oh no but what about the next guy after you,if he might see it.
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reader, chank  +, writes (17 December 2009):
I guess everyone who is in your situation has the same feeling with you, so don't think about it that much.
Sometimes it's hard to face the past or others' past, but it is life though. The bottom line is that you love her and she loves you,too. Forget it. Just think about the future and enjoy your lives to the fullest.
Good luck to you. by the way, my Eng is poor, too~~
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reader, Yos  +, writes (14 December 2009):
 Why she lied is fairly obvious: she most likely wanted you to feel special. It's a very common 'lie' for women to say things like that. Personally I don't ever ask that question, because I don't want to know if i was the first or not, or put her in a position where she feels that she might have to 'lie'. Either way, I don't treat this as a very serious lie, there are much worse I think.
However, you no doubt feel terrible. But, here is where you have to be clear. You are upset mostly because you saw a video of your girlfriend having anal sex with another guy. Like (almost) any guy, that would be really unpleasant! I'm sure if I had that experience I would be very upset indeed. Nothing wrong with feeling that way.
But, don't put those emotions onto your girlfriend as her fault, because of 'a lie'. Her lie is a small part of this. The feelings you are having now are only a small part due to that, and mostly to do with what you saw.
If you attack her over the lie because of this you'll only damage your relationship.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (14 December 2009):
I completely agree that your woman should not have deceived you about this. You have to now make a decision whether you are willing to fix things with her. As a person who already has children she is bound to have experienced a lot of things sexually. I think she was really trying to please you because she really loves you, so she thought a lie would help. Its up to you to decide if you cab ever forgive her for lying.
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reader, corn101 +, writes (14 December 2009):
corn101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni wasn't snooping aroung, i often login to her email to help her out in some business matter. i agree tat women tells white lies to impress her guy. but tell me if u are a guy, what will u feel if one day you found out the truth of the while lies?
but i was amazed by my tolerance level now, i had a past 6 years relation with another girl which she's a housewife type who doesn't go socialize dun mention about knowing random guys. now my gf is a pub worker who has to deal tons of different guys every night. but i insists to fetch her home each time she finish her work.
p/s: i gain nothing to do a fake post here do i? the timeline was just a rought figures as it doesn't really matter much in this topic.
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reader, Yos +, writes (14 December 2009):
"the point is, she lied about she never have anal sex before..."
The other point is you were snooping in her private email... and in the trash even.
If you go snooping in your partners personal stuff you are bound to find things you don't want to find. Don't blame her once you do, that's not fair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): And why did you watch the vidoes? You should have stopped looking as soon as you saw what was on it! Of course you don't like what you see, no one would like to see their significant other with their ex like that. No one. But you put yourself in that situation and willingly watched, now you have to suffer for it.You've not been cheated. Anal sex isn't like vaginal sex, even if you've done it before it can still hurt. The ass doesn't "widen out" like a vagina. Trust your girlfriend to have told you the truth. And stop with the snooping around! You have no business being in her e-mail or her e-mail trash can and you certainly have NO business watching private videos that you have NOT been given access to watch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): Hello. Youre english is very good! It sounds as if your gf was trying to get rid of the video so at least shes not storing things like that. I imagine her ex sent it to her. It might be a good idea to tell her to change her email address and stop having contact with him. As for pretending shes never had anal intercourse before. Maybe she was trying to pretend it was her first time too so you didnt feel uncomfortable. Or may be she wanted you to feel it was the first time and special! Either way shes a liar and this isnt good. You have to talk to her and ask why she lied. If you still want to be with her you will have to find a way to clear the images from your mind. It is often true that when we go looking we might find something we dont like. You did, so im afraid you have to deal with it now.
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reader, Yos +, writes (14 December 2009):
What were you doing in her email trash can?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): Everyone has a past, if you cant live with it then you cant live with them...
You need go get over it, and stop snooping around your girlfriends emails!
Its not unusual for a girl to tell a white lie to make her man happy... "yes it the biggest iv had", "ive never cum like that before"... blah blah it just white lies to make you feel good about yourself... and im gussing it worked!
But i suspect this is afake post anyway ;) your timelines done add up.
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reader, corn101 +, writes (14 December 2009):
corn101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe point is, she lied about she never have anal sex before...
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