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writes:I recently told a man I loved him becasue he had been through some bad stages in his life and thought he needed some love. I meant well but of course naturally he doesnt like it,which I can understand, so now I have lost him as a friend. I KNOW it was a daft Ithing to say, I just wanted him to feel some "love in time of need" which was obviously not needed!I would like to get back into his friendship book, should I pretend I have met someone else so it will take the "pressure" off and he will still have me as a friend? I DO know what I said was stupid, but surely I cant make some sort of "recovery on this lost friendship?A friend at work has suggested I just go quiet on him for awhile and then MAYBR he might just get back when the dust has settled? Any idea on a recovery programm of action please?Any advice please?
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 In my opinion you should just meet him and tell him all this...that you were 'daft' but why you said it etc...playing "games" like going quiet etc won;t help...
if he still is weird then that's his loss!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): Well, you'll have to talk to him for a start. I'd suggest you tell him that you meant you love him as a friend rather than anything sexual, which is what I'm guessing you meant.
I can't see why he naturally doesn't like it, or why he should distance himself from you, or why you think it was a daft thing to say. I think I'd probably be flattered, but I may also have told you that I didn't want that kind of friendship, but in the nicest possible way I could think of. I certainly wouldn't have shunned you afterwards without some sort of explanation.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 well how did you tell him you loved him? i mean you could say that you meant it just as friends - ie that you love him as a friend and nothing more? im sure you could say that and he would understand.
if not, then maybe wait for the dust to settle and then try explaining yourself. did you say you were in love with him?
like i dont see why you cant just say that you meant it as friends!!
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reader, weary-zone  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 well oki its not bad if you said that you love someone and the best thing to do i guess is not to say i don't love you no just tell him that you love him but love have aa lot of types and you love him as a close friend and he is very special that you really wanted to tell him but you just said it in the wrong way or he got it wrong so tell him that you tow have a strong friendship so if you said you love him it should make your friendship stronger so ask him why is it wrong if i told you that i love you and you are my friend !! i guess if i got your question right lol
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