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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am a disaster in relationships. I'm a really nice person, good fun and people like me as a friend. People say I'm pretty but every time I meet a guy I like, it always ends before it starts. It never gets past the second or third date and they never give me any reason why. My self esteem is gone now and I just don't know what to do any more. I find the whole dating game depressing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): I feel exactly the same as yourself...decided to have a go at internet dating, some guys were obviously out for one thing and then there are the players..players who lure you into a false sense of security, they're the ones to watch. The ones that talk about holidays together next year, keep telling you they want a relationship so you feel like all is going well. This actually happened to me and I thought this guy was a real keeper, I had dated a player before but this one was so different a professional who obviously does it for kicks. Well we were dating for nearly two months and we agreed to sleep together.....48hrs later he dumped me by text. So my self-esteem hit rock bottom at the time and it has affected me quite a lot. I still continued looking on the site and then got chatting to a guy,he seemed really nice and we were going to go on a date...but because of what had happened to me I think I've just closed down totally. So I've decided to give it a miss for a few months, I'm not desperate for a guy. I'm going to concentrate on me and become strong again. That is what you should do, go out with friends and enjoy, make you happy and put yourself first.Then when you're feeling better try once again. Sadly there are so many bad men out there, but I'm still not giving up hope of finding a good one.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 November 2007):
 What criteria do you have in the men you choose to date? The answer to your troubles lies there. You are not dating the kinds of men that want to be with the person you are inside.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): You are young yet and just look on the others as lucky escapes. I know what you mean, because years later when i was free and single (i wont say young!!) i just couldnt meet anyone. My friends used to say i was pretty, chatting, great to get alongwith yet i used to go home alone every night. I met my bloke through a friend of a friend, but she had met some lovely blokes from dating agencies. Just so long as you are careful. Never give out your home phone number, address etc, always meet them in a public place. Pubs and clubs are the best. Tell your friends where you are going and the name of the person you are meeting and dont put yourself into any sort of danger. Dont meet them again if you dont want to. Always give your mobile phone number and get theirs then you can text them briefly and say yes or no to another date, if they ask. Another good point is to give a trusted friend or relative the blokes phone number just incase anything happens, you never know. Just join and it could be a laugh, as long as you go into it not expecting too much, just go out with them for the date and the social scene.
take care
xx
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