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female
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51-59,
*eandmy2
writes:Am I just not cut out to be with a "good guy". I'm in a relationship all the girls in the magazines say they want. He's clean cut, financially stable, knows all the right people, takes me to all the right places etc. But, I'm bored. I even find sex with him boring. I find myself resenting him for being so perfect. I have found myself trying to be as good as he, and I've noticed that the more I change (no longer drink a drop, quit smoking, got a "real" job) the more he expects me to "grow up". I know that he feels like he is helping me by changing me; however, the "better" I get, the more I feel that I will never be good enough. I keep thinking that I need to get out before I totally lose me, but then I feel that if I do I may do a complete turn-about and be worse off. I have no family to turn to, and my friends are the kind that say "Dump him, we'll go get drunk" and are even more miserable than I with their "bad boys". Any real, true advice would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 This man is a Control Freak to the point of being ANAL. It is very unrealistic to mould someone into something they're not. I guess there is something exciting about "Bad Boys" they have this sense of danger,Im not saying you should date someone like Pete Doherty of Babyshambles but you get my drift.Do yourself a favour ditch him and find someone who loves you for yourself,cos personally I find these type of guys as exciting as watching paint dry. This guy will only hold you back and strip you of your identity and go out with your girlfriends and share a few bottles of wine and have FUN FUN FUN LOL. Good luck. Get back to me and tell me how you got on Rose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): All I can say is, you're going to regret, but that's just me. But then again, if you let him go, he sounds like the ideal guy most other women are waiting and searching for.
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