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writes:One of my friends told me this guy told her he liked me and all, and after hearing that I started liking him too. It's been 2 YEARS and he still didn't ask me out or anything (and I know for a fact that he STILL likes me.) Other guys have asked me out but I always keep turning them down hoping for him to make his move eventually. He still hasn't asked me out. So this is my question. Do guys get nervous when it comes to girls and what can I do to make him make the first move? Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (5 August 2007):
Have you asked the question why haven't you asked him out instead? After all we are now in the 21st century and nothing is thought negative in any way of a girl asking a bloke out. If you think of it - it is problably the main reason why you haven't asked him either. It is the fear of rejection. The chances are that he may want to go out with you but is fearful of rejection - he is fearful of you rejecting him.
Assuming he is your age - then yes guys do get nervous - some get petrified - they sometimes dread the actual asking and being laughed at by the girl and her friends when it becomes general knowledge that he has.
If you ask him out then he has to physically reject you to refuse the offer of you both being together. If he does refuse you will know that he does not like you enough to go out with you but if he accepts then you will find yourself in a relationship you are presently only dreaming about.
Go on - ask him - what have you got to loose?
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reader, uh oh +, writes (5 August 2007):
ok listen this happenss with pretty much any guy, im a guy an im probably in the same situation as him but without the 2 yrs part...u see with guys, they do get incredibly emotional on the inside about he right girl, they constantly think about the one thry are in love with and need a hell of a lot of time to be sure that you like him...the problem with guys is that what ever happens is to the extreme, he could make the first move and it could be a complete disaster, the girl may never speek agen, on the other hand it could go reli reli well and last for a while...dont worry, guys who take this long just means hes even more into you than you thaught. by takin longer he can covertly check ur reactions towards him and be certain that you like him. its one of those instincts inherited by our ancestors which triggers a sorta girl hormone which makes guys who actually like u for who you are not just what you luk like so great...dont worry, when he is ready hell open up to you. if u reli cant w8 maybe u should think about makin a small moe so he knows that you like him but atm it sounds like ur a closed book and guys arent mind readers!
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reader, GreenTea  +, writes (5 August 2007):
Hell yeah we get nervous! Why don't you just make the first move? Who cares who made the first move if a relationship starts?
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