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writes:I have been in a relationship going on two years now. we have lived with each other since within the first few months of dating. as time has gone by the relationship has gotten very rocky. I find myself always trying to please him, but no matter what I do he's never happy. he says he just stressed, but he takes it out on me. he constantly says he can't stand me. he asks me If I'm stupid and calls me worthless. I feel like I'm trying so hard to make this relationship work but I just keep getting put down. and when he yells at me it's not your normal yelling. he yells very loudly and acts like he might hit me. he never has but he does make me flinch cause I think he might. I'm really stuck right now. we just got a new place together but I don't know if I can handle crying all the time and just feeling disliked. that's why I need your help. what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Julie2010  +, writes (29 August 2010):
Hi,To figure out if it is as bad as you think it is, and to help get a perspective on it, try:1. Keeping a little notebook with everything documented (takes only a few seconds a day).2. Using a cheap voice recorder to tape how he reacts to soon show him how bad its gotten. Its hard to ignore evidence right? And it means you'll have proof you're not fabricating things. Hopefully, if you do these things, you will be able to see that its not as bad as you thought, or you will be able to see clearly why you should move on. You might even find new ways to tackle the situation if you can see patterns in his behaviour.Best of luck.
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