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*rokenhearted95
writes:Ok, so a few years ago, a boy moved to where i live, and i liked him instantly but i was too afraid to say anything to him...i liked him for three years until i finally found out that he likes me too, and we ended up getting togeather, it was an amazing 9 1/2 month relationship......but i had lied numerous times....and a couple of weeks ago, i told him about my lies....and he was really upset...and broke up with me....i was devestated so i tried to get him back...and after a few days of being upset...we got back togeather...only for him to break up a few days later because he says he doesnt love me anymore, and that i broke his heart, and that im a selfish manipulating liar.....i care about him more then anything....he then started talking to this girl that used to be a friend of mine, she had liked him for a while...and he knew....now i found out that he likes her back since as he says....she was there for him when i wasnt and she is really nice and everything.....my heart is completly broken....what can i do and say to him to get him back?
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 There comes a time when you have to face the harsh truth. This answer is very harsh. If you are not ready for that stop reading now.
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You seem to be confusing love with power and jealousy.
You can't make another person truly love you. You can get an infatuation or a crush. Unlike shoes and cars you can't buy boyfriends.
He was hurt by your actions. He doesn't see you as the person he was infatuated with. He has no interest in you as he sees you now. All you represent to him is pain.
You think that he chose your friend as an attempt to get revenge against you. That is probably not true. He knew her, your girlfriend felt sorry for him because she saw how you were treating him.
In short you will not get him back with more lies and manipulation. You need to learn that love is unselfish. When you care more for how he feels than how you look, then you will be there.
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