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36-40,
*olinsky
writes:Yes. After all those years of suffering and headbanging, I got it - this is who I am. This is not exactly a question although it would be nice if it can develop a life of it's own. It's just that today it hit me and I had to share with someone.Last week I asked a girl out on a date and she never showed up, but that's not important. The thing is that I got a new job and I met some great people there. They are all so jolly and care free, but let me begin at the beginning.I'm 24 year old male and I've always been single. Now, there are many reasons for that, sure, but now it just makes sense. I've always tried to analyze myself and see what I'm doing wrong, but that never gave any results. And forget the girls - my whole like has been sort of sad. Even when I'm supposed to be happy, I'm still sort of bored and not hype. Don't get me wrong, I'm not depressed. I love life and I'm surrounded by amazing people, but being happy (genuinely happy) has always eluded me for some reason. And if I'm happy (which is only for a short period of time) I'm like a bomb that will go off any moment. I'm euphoric. But then it passes away and I'm left sort of passionless again.So at this new job I got there was this girl that came to talk to me in the office that I am. We both arrive for work early (don't you just love going to work first?) so she dropped by and we had a really short chat. And when I say short I mean not more than a minute short. So that was it. It was her "Let's see if you're fun enough to hold up a convo" quiz time. I tried to seem care free and fun to be around, but I couldn't pull it off (again). In the end I probably looked pathetic and miserable.And this sort of attitude has always put women off. I know it now, because I saw how attraction works today. It happened before my eyes and I saw what I was doing wrong, but now I realize that I'll never be able to do it right, because that would mean faking it. And it's not like I mind faking joy for a while, but if I can't keep a girl entertained, she'll loose interest anyway. I mean... sooner or later she will notice that I'm forcing myself to smile etc. That's not gonna work.So this is it. This is it! Now I know that I will be single forever, because one of the most desirable traits women hunt for is something that I simply lack. I am flat out boring and quiet.Thank you, world!
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reader, Kolinsky +, writes (23 June 2009):
Kolinsky is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't believe there is a way to change. You just accept who you are and deal with it. That's it.
And, yeah, girls are looking for talkative chaps. Somehow that's a sign for confidence or something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): nobody is fun all the time, nobody is carefree all the time either, as long as you treat people with respect i do not see why you are destined to be single forever. And not all girls are out looking for mr talktoomuch either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): I'm the same so dont think your the only one. I wonder if there is anyway to change this??
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