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anonymous
writes:HeyI just broke up with my first boyfriend of 2 years as at 20, i felt trapped and too young to be in such a serious relationship and felt like i was stringing him along when i had thoughts of other guys. Now that i dont have him i cant stop crying over him and all i want is him back. Why am i feeling like this did i make a mistake or is it normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): It sounds like you broke up with him for valid reasons. You shouldn't be with someone if they make you feel trapped or if you want to be with someone else. If you felt 100% right about the relationship, you wouldn't have broken up with him, so it's good that you did before things went any further. Don't second guess yourself.
Maybe you are just so used to being in a relationship that now it is scary to be alone? Focus on yourself for a while. Hang out with your friends, go out and do things; if you're in school, study and work hard. You will get over him with time, and find someone new that will treat you better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): The way you're feeling right now is totally normal.
You've been in a relationship for 2 years, that's a long time of being with someone, so naturally you're going to be feeling a sense of loss and upset, especially if you consider him being a big part of your life.
It can only get better in time
Whether you made a mistake or not? That's up to you really. If these trapped feelings were very strong whilist you were going out then I would say you did the right thing. You have to ask yourself whether you crying because you don't have him anymore, or because you want him back and truly regret it. But I would say these feelings you're having are natural for someone who broke up with someone for reasons that are you're own personal feelings, so you probably have done the right thing.
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