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writes:Okay, well I guess I'll start from the beginning...About a month ago, I fell for one of my best mates, also female. I've told her and I think she feels the same way. I would rather not ask her, as I've inquired about her current crush, and she still likes her previous crush. I don't think she would tell me, though, if she did like me. I would like to ask her out, but I don't know how. So my question is this - Should I ask her and if so, how?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help guys, everything turned out awesome but it was just a phase and I now am happily in a relationship with my guy friend Joey :D
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reader, AbiMF  +, writes (29 May 2008):
Can't say for certain on liking you back, but a good way to test if someone is truly okay with your sexuality is to try talking to them about girls, someone you have a bit of a crush on or something. I've found it really shows the difference between lovely people who don't have a problem per se but find it a bit weird and those who are completely okay with it. If she feels the same way, she should be okay with talking about girls. Just a thought xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): Hmmm that's interesting I guess! But there could be more signs, like how does she look at you and how is her body language around you?
Although, by the way she's acting so far and she hasn't changed at all because of it, I don't think asking her out would make much difference - except you would know for sure if she liked you back or not!!
xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow - You guys rock! My friend's reaction, well, it's hard to say but she didn't seem distant or aloof after. After I told her she said okay. That's all. She also said it won't ruin our friendship.
I think she likes me back because she just started talking about stuff and not dwelling on the topic, and when I go over to her house to hang out or have a sleepover she's really comfortable around me, even though we haven't seen each other in a while, and she will randomly bring up topics, like, erm, what happens after puberty, shall we say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): I think you need to be 100% sure that she likes you back before you ask her out or anything, otherwise it might be awkward between the two of you, and that wouldn't be good!
I agree with Abi, it'd be good if she did feel the same way and she made the next move. But there could always be a possibility that she does feel the same way and is just too shy.. but it's not good to assume that someone likes you back because when they don't and you ask them out it can be really embarassing and awkward!
What is it that she does that makes you think that she feels the same way? If you give me some more detail it might be easier to tell.
Keep me posted! Good luck!
xx Hope xx
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reader, AbiMF +, writes (28 May 2008):
I was in exactly the same position as you about a year ago. I told her and it turned out she felt the same way. However, that doesn't necessarily mean that your friend does as well. You say you've told her, as in, she knows how you feel. If so, what was her reaction? If you've told her and she's been awkward or distant about it, it might be best to leave it. If she knows that you like her, I'm afraid the ball's really in her court to make the next move. If you really want to do something you could try asking her how she feels over the phone or by email. Try to keep it light, but by making it a little more impersonal it'll be easier for her to say how she feels without feeling too awkward. Hope it works out for youAbi xxx
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