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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello... please call me Jessie cause thats my nick name and i am turning 16 this monthso here is my problem. One of my eldest cousin who was 21 years held a birthday party on a club and he let me meet his friends. When i was eating in the chilling area he dragged one of his gay bestfriend who was 23 years old to me so we can get to know each other. Indeed we get along and we become close and i got a little crush on him that time. One time i asked were he was going to work and he said that it was a big secret so i didn't bug him about that anymore.When the summer ended, I enrolled into this new school and found out that our homeroom teacher was my cousins gay best friend, so i got really happy and we are becoming more and more close as the school year pass by and i finally fell for him.Everyday we see each other and we are so closed that my friends almost tease me to him. Sometimes when i asked him if he likes someone he just say that "yes, i found this very special girl who accepted me for being a gay and i want to be a man for her and wait her to graduate and then we will be together. " It makes my curiosity attack me and i asked my cousin if he knew the girl his friend was talking about but my cousin will just smiled at me and gave me a hint that it was very sexy girl not chubby like me. But still i hoped that that girl was me.One time when it was our football class, i was hanging around with my boy best friend and i love to hug him. That time our teacher was passing by and i saw him glare at my best friend and called him to say that it was violation to hug someone inside the school he then walked and left. Some of my girl friends said it was sign of jealousy but i ignored it cause i should stop admiring him cause it wont workAs school year passed by he become more clingy to me, he always asked for my cooking, we always have window shopping and sometimes he teases me that if he was only a boy he would fall in love to me and he promised me that i will be his first dance to our prom.When the prom arrived he greeted me but he broke his promise that i will be his first dance and i was totally hurt by that. The midnight came and he still didn't asked me for a dance, when the host said that it was the last song they ganna play he walked towards me and asked for a dance. He said he was very happy to finally dance with me and he continued to say that he was glad that he meet me. he was glad that i become his friend and so on and on. Then he coughed and said that i might be tired and then he run away from me.On the next day he gave me new nicknames and always hugged me, even if it was dare game he will suddenly hug me tightly. Then the last day in our school came, he begged that i would stay more time to spend with me and he doesn't want to let go of the hug but i manage and i said good bye to him but i felt he was really hurt on what i did.Does he have feelings on me? Should i tell i have crush on him?Should i hope on the signs he was showing or not? please i need help D:
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2013): You are only 16, and your teacher can get into a lot of trouble. He could lose his job and maybe even go to jail. As long as he keeps his distance and treats you like the rest of the other students, it's all okay.The conversations you say you are having and the things you are you are doing, sound inappropriate for students and teachers. If he is gay, he doesn't really feel anything for you, he is being nice to you because he knows you have a crush. You are just a young girl and reading more into things than really exists. Gay men don't like girls in the way you describe. I'm taking your age into consideration, and know most of the things you say are more in your imagination than reality. That's how grown-ups get into trouble with people your age.You don't know if you are gay yet. You are still very young and you want to be liked. You like his attention and you also may like boys. You have to stick with people your own age; so you understand their feelings more. He's a grown man, and you don't understand anything, from what you explain. I don't believe you are giving your real age, your writing looks like someone younger than 16.You mentioned you are chubby. Sometimes people feel bad about how they look, and when someone pays attention,they think they're in love with that person. It's only your first crush on a guy. That's all. If you keep hanging around this man, your parents will be very angry. I promise you. You can ignore me, and you'll see. They'll be very angry.No more hugging when you're alone. No more after-school visits. Twenty-three year-old gay men DO NOT fall in love with 16 year-old girls. They like other men. You apparently don't know what gay means, if you think they do.You are way too young for this.
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