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26-29,
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writes:Hey,It really confuses me and I dont know what to do! There's this guy, he's like my best friend, but at the same time we're more than that. We speak everyday, and we flirt a lot too, it gets really confusing though because I never really know what he wants. He tells me he loves me and he always calls me 'baby' or 'beautiful' and i asked him what we were and he just said friends. It really upset me because I feel that we are more than 'just friends'. We are really close and I dont think i could go out with him because we are such good friends but, I do like him, and sometimes I think he feels the same way but other times he makes me think the opposite, I dont want to bring it up to him either incase he starts to back away. I dont want to ruin my friendship if I tell him, so what can I do?:S
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): I've been in a similar situation, kind of, since I'm a guy, though I didn't call my close female friend "baby" or anything like that. I find that a little unfair on his part. I mean, always calling you "baby", "beautiful" and telling you he loves you! That's not cool, especially since he knows how you feel cos you asked him about it. You could ask him "please don't call me baby, cos it confuses me", or "why do you tell me these things, if we are only friends?"
Guys sometimes want the "best of both worlds" that is, they want the advantage of you being always around, flirting with them etc., but not the responsibility of a relationship. Girls (more often than guys) want certainty and clarity, which you should have. You could ask him, "ok, if we're just friends, how would you feel if I got a boyfriend?". When he thinks of it like that, he might see it differently.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): You don't need to bring it up again because he's told you you're just friends. You have your answer but it's not what you want to hear! Your feelings are not facts and are not reciprocated. Yes, you will push him away if you keep bringing it up because instead of being a friend, you will be a pest. Deal with it quietly on your own or enlist the support of friends, but do not continue to look to this boy for validation he can't give you.
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