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*dime3193
writes:Hello, I've been dating this girl for 6 months now and I knew her for around 3 months before we got together I knew she had a son comming into it with her. But now it seams as of we are drifting apart.i feel like she has no time for me what so ever I care about her alot and I get her having a son is going to take time away. I love her Lil dude his dads not really on the picture at all. But he but here a my issue me and her are now only seeing each other once a week because she says she get in the moments sometime where she seconds guesses her self weather she should be with anyone so we have refused tos seeing each other on the weekends. But she always has her son son sleeping in the same bed as us we never cuddle anymore I don't remember the last time we kissed or anything I just feel like were drifting apart and now she is going back to school so my time is being chipped away at more with her. I don't feel like I'm a priority at all in her life I don't feel wanted cared about anything I don't feel anythibg like before. I feel like I sound leave her. I'm just not sure. Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (9 January 2016):
I think you need to be very clear with her that you need time as a couple. Of course it’s hard with her having a son and she probably can’t prioritise you a lot of the time, but she does need to make some time for you. Even if she cannot get anyone to look after her son, he doesn’t always have to sleep in a bed with you. You could still have a nice meal together whilst he is sleeping. You could still at least try and figure out how you can do romantic things together. I do think you need to tell her that she is neglecting the relationship and that you can’t carry on like that, because everyone has their bottom lines and things that they need from a relationship. Intimacy and time apart are a couple of things that most people need. Then I think you need to have an idea in your head as to how long you are prepared to give it before you seriously consider leaving if she isn’t trying to work with you. The reason for this is that you don’t want this to drag on for ages with you hoping that things might change. If she knows things need to change for you and she doesn’t do anything about it, then you know where you stand. But I would say give her a chance. It’s hard juggling parental responsibilities, study and a relationship.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, hetham4985w +, writes (9 January 2016):
Have you tried to go for counselling, or spoken with friends about the issue?
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