A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have this friend that I've known for 7 months. We work together and we play together. He and i (or so i thought) became real close. We practically go out 4-5 times a week. I even met his mom and she loved me. He is going through a painful divorce (no kids) and i know his life is changing. He's been gone for a week (he's visiting his family for the holidays). He said he wanted me to come, but he said he'll call me. Well he never called and i finally broke down and sent him a text 5 days later. He just pretty much text me a weather forecast saying how cold it is where he's at and that was pretty much it. He and i have shared so many intimate moments (or so i thought) and we even messed around (kissing and oral sex). I have done so much for this man. I love him as a friend and i would love more from him, but he's very flirty and im sure eventually wants to "date" other women once his divorce is final (if not sooner). I am so use to being with him, i love his friendship and companionship, but right now i feel very hurt that he hasn't bothered to call or text me and see how im doing. It's new years eve today and i sent him one more text asking him if he's going to celebrate with his family...NO RESPONSE. I just feel like an idiot for feeling so depressed and empty inside. I can feel my heart breaking in two. I don't know what to do anymore.
View related questions:
depressed, divorce, flirt, oral sex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Arianz  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Dear,
1st I think you should talk to him straight because he is your friend. You should tell him how you feel when he does this with you. Or you can suggest him.
I THINK your feelings is more then friendship so that your expectation is bit higher.
But from his end I don’t think it’s like your.
So my suggestion for you that:
***Think what are you doing with him? (Does he want to in that way or not?)
***Is that under friendship or more then that? (If not then you should talk to him openly and tell him your feelings about him.)
***Does he look you in same way you look? (If he doesn’t then don’t be upset cause he is friend. friends can do mistakes if you are best one then you should forgive him)
If you think he is your friend then when he does flirt or date with others then it shouldn’t be upset for that. Cause your friend is now become single again. And he needs a person for his life. If you want him attach with you then it can be hard for him to find someone else.
As a friend always care him and try your best to be with him in his problems. So that he could feel you touch in his life.
Try to find out my questions in your mind I hope it will help you to find a way.
Please don’t be upset.
Please don’t mind if my any sentence hurts you my English is not so good.
If my suggestion helps you then I will feel good.
Take care
arianz
|
