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writes:Hello to everyone and happy new year!! Ok aunts yes it's me again. Heres the situation. The guy that I had talked about before is driving me crazy.Last week he called me quite a few times 4 times christmas eve and yesterday he called 3 we talked about 4 hours total yesterday.And here and there through the week. He told me he wasn't sure if he was ready for a relationship, but yet when I ask him if im wasting my time he says no.He told me he likes living alone. I told him i wasnt asking to move in.I did tell him the only reason he was confused was because he was worried what his friends and family would think of him cause he was with an older woman and oh my god she has kids too.might have pissed him off ,but i truly believe that.Anyways he called me back at midnight and told me if you want, you can come over. and i told him im not driving all the way over there unless you really want me to. he tells me i don't care(half hour drive)and i told him its a yes or no question, dont give me the i dont care crap. so he says ya. i go there and played with his new puppy which i got online and researched to find it for him and no thanks or anything(i didnt buy it, he did. my mother didnt raise a fool lol). anyways he had been drinking a good bit and fell asleep and i layed there til 3 or so (no sex didnt even make a move, asshole) and i got up, woke him and told him i was leaving (wasnt gonna give him the chance to wake up with morning wood roll over get laid and then i leave... hell, whores get paid lol). he tells me to come here gives me a big hug and the freakin buddy pat on the back - what the hell wss - he just playing around i could have punched him right in the freakin face. oh i was mad, still am when i think about it. i kissed him on the cheek and left. i cant for some reason not talk to him that was the first time i was at his house since the 22nd of nov.I was so pissed for letting myself go over only to have that outcome. so this morning he calls me and asked why i left i told him i was wide awake and i could go to my own bed and stare at my own four walls.he told me he would call me sometime later he had to work on the farm. so heres the question, i've babbled enough. he said he wasnt doing anything tonight for new years and im not going out so should i call him and ask if he wants to hang out and watch a movie? or should i just leave it be? (this could be my chance to get some questions answered maybe) mind you hes been the one calling me everytime. I took your advise and havent called him at all or texting. hes made all the moves so is he coming round or is it still a waste of my time? i've never had this hard of a time getting a guy i think thats why i cant give up on him maybe deep down i like the chase lol, damit i have to win this i hate losing :-) well thank you for listening and i hope to get feedback cause i cant think straight anymore xoxoxo
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reader, jellybeaner +, writes (1 January 2009):
jellybeaner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell I went ahead and called him left a message and asked him if he would like to watch a movie with me. I never got a call back letting me know either way. oh well and no call saying happy new year at least i dont think he did i bought an expensive piece of crap pc phone and it crashed at exactly midnight go figure but he could have left a voicemail thanks for the help again xoxo
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reader, pinkipod109 +, writes (1 January 2009):
 well, he obviously wants to talk to you. i mean you stopped being the first to talk to him, and he still wants to talk. This means he likes sharing things with you and might be interested. He asked you over, so definitely interested. I guess he's just confused. He doesn't know what to think about your age difference, or the kids. He's scared of making a wrong mistake. He wants to know for sure what he really feels. That's why he keeps talking to you. He wants to get to know you better, and make sure of what he's feeling. However, tell him you understand that he's confused, but you cant wait forever for him. You have children, you cant be hanging off of a guy while he makes a decision of wether he's ready for a relationship or not. Tell him you do really care about him, and that if his decision is yes, and he is ready, then you'll be happy to except it, but you cant wait forever hun. good luck!
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