A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: I don't know what my problem is but I feel undateable. I have no serious relationships and I just feel like is hard to meet any guys that I have anything in common with. I been told that I'm a cool person to hang around, pretty, smart, but the only thing is a tend to be a little quiet. I've been working on being more vocal but its not like I'm a mute, I can carry a conversation. There is only one guy that ever wanted to have a real relationship with me and that didn't work out. It's so fustrating because I didn't know how hard it was going to be to meet someone else. This situation just makes me want to appreciate all the relationships and friendships I have now a lot better. I know I can't get the guy back now but no I'm starting to realize more and more everyday that I shouldn't have been so quick to push him a way. I have a bad habit of not letting people get to close, but I'm working on it. Why is it so hard to find somebody else and not that I'm trying to get to know these new guy's why do they all just seem to fade a way? I'm just trying to find someone I have something in common with I don't understand what' going wrong, someone please enlighten me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (3 August 2012):
 Well aside from you needing to better communicate with a potential love interest, you have to learn how to open up. You mentioned in your post, that you have a bad habit of not letting people get to close... well therein lies the main problem. How can you expect someone to steal your heart when you have it guarded? You have to take a chance- and allow someone to show you that they can be the man that you need in your life. I think you should put yourself in an environment/space where you can meet more people. Join social networking events, events/mixers for singles, go on a phone chatline, hire a matchmaker, and go to places where the type of men that you like typically hang out/ works. You should also read as much as you can through the form of books and articles on how to be a better dater and/ or how to attract the type of men that you want. Because your body language, tone of voice, confidence level, and conversation skills plays a huge role in being a successful dater.You're capable of meeting the right guy. And just because things didn't work out with the men prior, doesn't necessarily mean that things will continue that way. Your Mr. Right is out there... don't give up hope. Because when he does cross your path, you will be more appreciative of him- just because of what you been through before him. Best Wishes!
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