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writes: I have a weird problem, maybe someone can help me out here.I feel totally judged by others, when I'm in public places.I don't know if it's true or I just imagine this. It's really hard to tell. I feel everybody looking at me really mean, and looks up and down, on me.Now, I keep hearing , that I'm silly, what would they look and there is nothing wrong with me. I keep hearing it from people , that I'm really beautiful, and I'm sure it's not the problem.I don't think it's because I don't look good, but there is something weird about me.Maybe they sense something with my aura or t I'm just different.Also sometimes I make up things, like they think I"m a drug addict, or a lesbian..I do look sad,and maybe that. But sometimes I feel really bad.I'm not doing anything bad. I live a very healthy honest life, taking care of myself, yet people make me feel bad.Is there anybody who has some problems like mine? What can I do? Thanks
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 You seem to be suffering from an extreme of low self-esteem, possibly futhered by paranoia. If others see you as beautiful then you must be! Remember that to some you may mean nothing but to someone you will mean the world.
If you are pretty you are looked out because you are being admired. If you are really insecure, it might show. It could be something about the way you carry yourself. You would be surprised how your posture can even be affected by low self-esteem or feelings or insecurity.
Perhaps someone in your past, during childhood or any adult relationship has made you feel that you weren't beautiful or worthy. But you are!
It's much harder to see from the inside looking out..so aren't we glad that we have real people who see us and love us FROM THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN!
Get out that mirror and look right into it...say I am beautiful, I am smart, I am kind, I am exciting, I am worthy..any and all things which you are told. Learn to believe it! Trust in yourself and Believe!
Don't worry so much about what others think of you...what is most important is what you really think of yourself. You already know that you do what you should. You are already doing it! Your life is bound to be a good example to someone.
Stand straight, stand tall..............and learn to bend when the strong winds blow. Let others see that you can weather the storms of life and still be STANDING! Learn to say hello when someone looks at you and SMILE cause GOD LOVES YOU! Learn to love yourself. :)
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): i know how you feel, i hate going out into the public, specially when i'm on my own because i always think that people are staring at me and judging me.
but really it doesn't matter what other people think, they don't know you so why would they judge you...
are you a confident person or quite shy and self-consience? if you're shy than maybe you could try and build up your confidence, go out with friends at the weekend and just have a good time, when you're in public and feel like people are looking at you just keep on telling yourself that there's nothing wrong with you and there's no reason why anyone would be staring at you, or even judging you.
if your friends tell you that you're beautiful then maybe people aren't looking at you because there's something weird about you, maybe they just think that you're pretty and can't help but look at you, lol.
i know i'm not great at giving advice but i hope this helped at least a little, and you can always send me a message if you want.
good luck xx
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