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writes: hey.Have been goin out with my boyfriend the past 2 and a half years. Lately i have been having feelings for another male. I sometimes think i need to be single for a while but I am afraid my boyfriend will move on and meet someone and I will regret breaking up with him. My boyfriend is so good to me and never gives me any hassles.Please help my head is wrecked
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (29 March 2006):
 You want to break this happy relationship up for a fancy crush?It's very hard now to find a decent man so if i was you i would keep hold of him and don't break up.If you did do for a while don't be surprised if he has been snatched by other girls.He sounds like a really nice man.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 Ok I think you need to nail down what these feelings are before you can make any descision. Is it just lust or do you feel an emotional attraction to this other man too? If you do break up with your b/f then there is a chance that your b/f will move on.
Also, how are you feeling about your relationship with your b.f? You say he doesn't give you any hassel which is good but is the relationship unexciting to you? If the other guy excites you sexually, is that what is lacking with your b/f? Is it possible that you are feeling the relationship is 'routine' in your mind? If that is the case then is it possible to rekindle the spark?
These are the kind of things that you need to think about before you make any descision. Hope that helps.
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reader, Clarey +, writes (29 March 2006):
 Hello. I don't know how old you are but I remember feeling like you in the past. It is hard to be tied down when you are young even if you do love someone. Simetime you will find the person you will be with hopefully for the rest of your life. While this time is painful you will look back on it one day with a smile and wish you could still be living the same way. You are "meant" to meet people, compare their qualities and find the best match for yourself. How can you do that (unless a massive stroke of luck) unless you actualy get to know some people. Your boyfriend will still be there in a few years if you are meant to be together. Tests are not bad things. You could say that you don't think you should be in a serious relationship while so young. You would be right. Then you could get to know the other guy with no guilt. Give yourself some time, there is no need to rush into any decisions. In a month you may be head over heels with the other guy, so your decision will be made for you. I have a sneaking feeling that could be the best answer. Don't force anything, just patiently wait, don't feel guilty and the answer will come by itself.
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