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writes:Anyone else wish they couldn't feel emotions? I feel like everything hurts me. I'm an intense person, I get close quickly and they end up hurting me. I've never been able to have a relationship for more than a year. It takes me ages to get over pain, people's comments stick in my head for ages. It's like I'm obsessed with people and their words, I don't understand the concept of people saying things without meaning. I take banter as they secretly resent me. How do I stop this? I want to feel love but it's too intense :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2014): Thanks for your answers. I do believe i may be suffering my othello syndrome, which is morbid jealousy.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (15 May 2014):
 Youll get used to all the shit out there eventually youll create a shield so thick nothing will get thru. Not even love. If thats where u find peace stick with it.
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reader, RevMick +, writes (15 May 2014):
 Hi OP,The brain is a wonderful and complex thing. Unfortunately sometimes chemicals become imbalanced and our thoughts turn inward, become darker or we obsess over things that shouldn't really matter.I don't think you are being emotional, I do think there is some brain chemistry that you should see your GP about.I agree with sovery that if you can afford to go private you really do get what you pay for.I have a few people I see regularly, one of which happened to go down the GP route and the sessions with her NHS prescribed counselor left a lot to be desired. I don't want to put you off but one of the tests she had to do was putting cards into boxes.There were 2 boxes, most like me and least like me. Each card had a statement on it, sometimes just slightly similar in wording.The problem she had was that you are given about 100 cards and have 10-20 minutes to complete the test. Well you just end up putting cards into a random box.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2014): You sound EXACTLY how I used to be... Something small like an argument or someone not messaging me back would put all kinds of emotional frenzies... Anything anyone said against me I would take to heart, I would randomly remember comments and have an actual complex... Over time I did get some therapy and have got a lot better, I've tried different medications, and different therapies.Of course i still get some obsessive, panicky paranoid thoughts- but I'm on SSRIs, which really take the edge off. I'm on a low dosage, and probably should have persevered with the therapy more, though it helped A LOT.Picking up on what YouWish said about it being brain chemistry- I truly believe from what I've learnt, read, experienced that it accounts for so much- things like OCD or depression are due to imbalances of chemicals- which are often natural- but ALSO worsened n reinforced by repeated thinking patterns- it's actually proven that negative thoughts send signals to your brain that prevent it from making certain chemicals... I'm NOT a neurologist, trying to be brief there lol, but that's the general gist, I've researched a lot and found the same info, also from therapies. Have u heard of Ruby wax? She's been in an actual coma because of her emotional pain before... I never used to like her, but now see her as an inspiration ... She has a mental health site, n articles:http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-2332818/How-RUBY-WAX-trained-brain-beat-depression.htmlhttp://www.blackdogtribe.com/personality-disordersTo get any therapy, firstly go to your GP, who'll refer you to something on the NHS... I found CBT very helpful. Even mind, although they can have a long waiting list. Be honest about how strongly you feel how it's holding you back from living. He may send you to a mental health assessment team, which he should do, although some of these places CAN Be pretty useless, keep looking.If you have the money then it's definitely worth seeing a private PSYCHIATRIST... I've never seen a proper one on the NHS tbh. I was very privileged to get some of this... It can cost a couple of thousand though, but the treatment is SO in depth. It's likely a case of so,e medication to take the edge off, and therapy. You need both to benefit n move forward IMO. Here are some more websites as well:http://www.mind.org.ukhttp://www.thewoodlandpractice.co.uk/pages/useful-links-and-resources.phpGood luck n take care :) x
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (14 May 2014):
 It sounds like what you have aren't emotions that are too intense, but obsessive tendencies linked to interpersonal relationships. No matter what it's labeled, it's sabotaging your future.
You would benefit greatly from some time in therapy, because you've already jumped the hurdle of recognizing that the issue is yours. There are many in your shoes who are oblivious, and those in their lives who haven't distanced themselves are walking on eggshells in fear of stepping on emotional landmines.
Seriously - your life would change drastically for the better with some professional guidance. There is no stigma, and people wear eyeglasses for vision problems, use a cane if they have a limp, wear a pacemaker if their heart is weak. Likewise, you could use professional tools to break obsessive cycles in your thinking, which very much could have their origins in your brain's chemistry.
I'm not from the UK, but hopefully some of our UK aunts can point you in the right direction of who to contact to get you some help and raise your quality of life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2014): Don't worry , it gets better with age !
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