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writes:I was wondering if anyone one has gone through a similar situation and how you dealt with it. (And thanks for reading this)My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 3years, me 22 and him 24. We have been in a long distance relationship, three hours away, except for the summers when I come back from college. To make a long story short, everything was wonderful until I found out last April he had been talking to another girl for about 3 months. Needless to say, I ALMOST broke up with him after seeing some of the content of their conversations. She lives quite a few states away so nothing physical ever happened between them. He claimed it was all a joke and she meant absolutely nothing to him. The problem is I don't think I feel the same way about him anymore--I love him still, but it's not the same as before. And I feel so guilty. I want it to be the same... but it crushed me when I found out. I don't bring the subject up and have tried to forgive him, but I still think about it now and then. I know when people are in a relationship you can still notice other attractive people like, " Oh, she's pretty" "He's handsome," but I am starting to be attracted not just notice. And I feel bad. I would never cheat, and don't talk to or flirt with such guys. Before he talked to this other girl, I loved him with doubt and trusted him completely. I have regained much of my trust for him now but it will never be the sameI'm not sure what to do...He talks of marriage, tells his family I'm going to be his wife... He sees what he did as minor--he didn't even understand why I was so upset by him talking to that girl as he said it was a joke... I'm not sure if I want to marry him now. Plus, he's dropping out of college and has no idea what to do for a jobI'm not sure what to do. Is it understandable that my love has changed? Is it wrong I'm worried about his lack of career? The time I almost broke up with him he threatened suicide, I feel stuck and unsure
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): You're not alone. I completely relate to all that you've shared here and that which you didn't share. It's bitter-sweet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontypo: "Before he talked to this other girl, I loved him withOUT* doubt and trusted him completely." (should make more sense now)
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