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41-50,
*licia
writes:last year my man left me for the ex who was having his baby. he said it was tha right thing to do. I was devastated. i asked him why he couldt just man up to his responsibilities if he still wanted to be with me and he said no. Do you think he did want to be with. now i cant move on and still want him back and i still hope he thinks of me and will want me back. Am i being stupid. The thing is i have just found out that he is engaged and that is killing me. How can i move on from this and start a new life? my ex wants us to tyr our relationship again but i am woriied that i will be unhappy. But i feel that if i dont say yes then i will never meet anyone else then i will be alone. I feel so worthless and humiliated and think it's my fault this man couldn't be with me and love me even if he has another child. I would have accepted the child and he knew that. It hurts. Should i just settle for being an escort so that men can use me cause i feel like rubbish. I feel like its my fault and there is something i wasnt giving him. i feel like nothing. What can i do? should i go back to my ex? how can i move on from this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): u ex should be with his partner there having a child together if he truely loved you he would have stayed with you try to move on
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 Huni its time to stop this now! You are a princess your a darling you dont need a man in your life and you shouldnt waste anymore tears crying over a guy who went back to an ex who was having a baby, you dont deserve to come second to anyone especially this loser so dry your eyes and dont waste another thought on this jerk. Your not worthless and stop talking about being an escort you dont need another man to walk all over you.
Your ex left you big deal life goes on i know it hurts sooo much right now and you feel as if nobody will ever love you ever again but you know what there IS someone better out there someone who will treat you like the princess you are. Right now you need to focus on yourself make yourself feel better, go to a spa get pamperd grab your girl friends and go to a club have a good night forget about men focus on you and only you and when you least expect it that special someone will find you and you will wonder why you ever wasted tears on your ex, and as for getting back with your other ex remeber ex's are ex's for a reason.
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reader, jabey +, writes (21 February 2008):
before you make any decisions its time for you!!!
Time to nuture yourself love yourself and care about yourself. He has chosen someone else, mainly due to the baby. You are still beautiful, still attractive and still unique, he has not taken that away fom you.
what are the things you love, eating out ? music? films ? socialising? reading? get my gist /
Find out about you, find out who you are.
Put on your make up, buy some clothes, new ones. Go shopping for you, have a massage. When you have cared for yourself you will beging to heal.
Of course you will meet someone new, but Im afraid they dont just fall in your lap.
When my heart was broken I did all those things, and yes sometimes i felt like hell, but gradually i began to realise who I was. I spoilt myself as much as possible, and cleared negative thoughts about myself. i said noone can treat me badly unless I allow them.
I joined a dating site and made heaps of new friends and went on lots of fun dates, yes I met about 15 guys, all lovely but i was not going to settle for second best I had a check list and I was sticking to it !!!
Then I met my present my and he ticked the boxes and we have been together for 5 months and he loves me dearly, cus he know one step out of line and i will get rid.
Its a long journey, but have faith, i had counselling to. I read confidence books, I spent time with loyal friends, I spent time alone. I did what suited me, not what suited everyone else.
And here I am, not perfect but determind, and a fighter. You can do it for yourself.
Look in the mirror what is special about you. Whta have you acheived in life ? you must like things about yourself.
One man amongst millions of men in the world has lost you you gorgeous special woman. and there is one lucky man out there waiting for you. Dont settle, remember how great youare, I bet he will one day, when he bumps into you looking happy confident and fab. And he has to go home to dirty nappies and sleepless nights !!!! Go girl. This is your timexxx
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