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30-35,
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writes:The guy and I were friends for a month before he asked me for a relationship. I met him on a penpal site, and we just talked about our family lives and I helped him find scholarships and stuff (he was from Africa). When he asked me for a relationship. I agreed and figured whatever--I'm single right now so what could a little bit of online gratification hurt? Well, over the next week after that I started to really like him, unfortunately. I never trusted him a whole lot, but I liked his personality and he seemed genuine. And he was so sweet in his messages and when we chatted. But I still didn't trust him a whole lot. Well, a few days ago I set him up with one of my friends on a website. In a matter of a few hours, she had him saying I love you. So, that was it and I told him it was over. Of course. He told me to go onto chat and I did, and he tried so many stupid excuses. This is part of what I'm having an issue with--I couldn't believe the stupid crap he was telling me...and I feel totally disrespected.Not only that, but then gave me his e-mail and other account passwords, and so I went and then I saw the really nasty stuff--he was lying to people about being an orphan, lying about his age, and he had like 4 different girlfriends. Well, I'm just having a hard time dealing with it. The guy is giving me a complex. I blocked me from all of his accounts and deleted every single message, comment, and e-mail to ever exist from me, but I can't stop thinking about how stupid I was to even start it to begin with. I basically feel violated, ignorant, and look back thinking that I was desperate. And I basically feel inferior; as I've since seen, each time he looses one girl he creates new accounts and keeps on going and going. I know because I figured out his new password to his new account just a few minutes after he created his new account, which was not even 5 minutes after I finished deleting everything of mine from his accounts (which was when I blocked him from our chat program). He just moved right along, and instantly he was at it again. So, how do I get over it and realize I have no control over what he does and how stupid the new girls are? This is bothering me knowing that I can't do anything because he just slips right along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): This stinks of a 419 scammer!!
google his email address / name.....see what shows up!
google 419 scam to find out more about these despicable people who have no morals, and prey on vulnerable people.
the more people who are aware of this type of scam the better.
DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE SEND ANY MONEY VIA WESTERN UNION OR MONEYGRAM TO THESE PEOPLE!!
Take Care and be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): I think you have learnt more than you realise - that is to trust your gut instinct a lot more and a lot earlier. You said in your post that you didn't trust him a whole lot - that should have been it. Relationships whatever the circumstance without trust are not worth it. He is manipulative and who on earth knows where that would have ended - perhaps with you giving him money? I think you had a lucky escape and try and see this as a life lesson.
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