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writes:hi all,my boyf at the moment is lovely, kind, generous, patient, trusting, loving, and good in bed, lets just say he's almost everything i look for in a man, and he also adores me. thing is, when we first met i was in a casual relationship with someone else which i wanted to take further, but they never did. this other bloke has just moved in near my boyf, i had no feelings for this other man when i started out with my boyf, but now i find his actions can easily wind me up, and i think about him, we hadnt spoken for a while, and i saw him in a bar and asked him if he wanted a drink and he blew me off. this made me feel really sad and gutted. this bloke hasnt got anything on my boyf he's lazy, a cheat and a liar and generally not a nice person. i see him look at me when im with my boyf , like it gets to him but he refuses to show it. This other guy left his girlfriend and told his family/friends we were dating, then just a week later said he wanted to be friends.i feel so rejected and i dont know why, he's nothing special - not like my current boyf, but i just can't forget.thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): You can't get over the other guy because of the aborted relationship with him last time around; "thing is, when we first met i was in a casual relationship with someone else [the other guy] which i wanted to take further, but they never did." So, now you've got unanswered questions, and want to finish what never got started - that next level with Other Guy. Doesn't matter that he's a jerk, and your boyfriend's perfect - your bf is a known quantity, and the jerk is unknown and you wanted him and didn't get to have him. He didn't want to go there, you felt rejected by him back then, and every time you interact with him and he doesn't go for you, you replay that final rejection scene.
He IS something special, at least to your feminine ego - the classic "the one that got away".
You need to have a long, serious, brutally honest talk with yourself and determine what's so missing in your relationship with your bf that you are fixating so hard on Other Guy. No one else can really give you those answers, or give you the advice on what to do that you can give yourself, if you'll have the bravery to face up to yourself.
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reader, type4help +, writes (20 September 2008):
 seems like you may want attention some where else but when you want it you don't get it. i wouldn't feel rejected because he didn't want you to buy him a drink. maybe he would of prefered to buy you a drink ??? .. but if you love youur boyfriend and hes more of a gentlemen, then why would you want to leave him for some one lazy and doesn;t care?!
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