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writes:My ex told her mate she was considering having a break from me in order to hook up with some guy she knows online. I confronted her about this, and she said it was girly chat and meant nothing. A week later, I'm dumped. And shes already got plans to meet this guy from the internet.She has the nerve to say how we might be back together soon, and asked if i'd ever take her back (without actually asking me to). I feel so played. Does she think I'm a toy she can pick up and put down as she pleases?I really dont know what I can do to make myself feel better about this situation. Yes my head says im better off without people like her, but obviously my heart thinks differently. I still love her.We still hang out. I dont think I could cut her out from my life, and so I need another way of getting over her. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): You need to stop seeing your ex. Make it clear that you WILL NOT take her back and say to her its time for you to move on. You deserve to be with someone that truely wants to be with you...what was she doing chatting to this guy on the internet anyway. Walk away and dont look back she's not worth your time!
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reader, forgonepath  +, writes (25 May 2007):
Couldn't agree more with sleepyhollow...give it some time and the situation will improve. Also, hanging out with her sort of works against the whole giving it some time thing. It's your turn to take a break from her. I realize it will be difficult, but like sleepy said, just keep reminding yourself how she treated you like a toy which you didn't deserve. Then later when you've met someone else, what she did or didn't do wouldn't bother you as much because you'll be with someone you love. Then it will be easy for you to forgive her and you can start hanging out with her then. Good luck buddy!
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (25 May 2007):
Time. And then some more time.
You'd be surprised at how enough time can give you a better perspective.
Just think about it rationally for now, and write down your thoughts about why you don't deserve to be treated like her toy. Whenever she comes around again, reread what you wrote. Write down how she made you feel.
Afterwards, it is just a matter of trying to live your life until the pain has faded away. Eventually you will meet a woman who won't treat you so callously or take you for granted. And before you know it, the name that bounces back and forth within your skull won't be that of your ex.
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