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writes:I would really appreciate some help . I am going through a divorce. My husband left me after 18 years of marriage. We married young as students .Six months ago I started a friendship with a married man I have known for years. We slept together this week and I feel guilt and shame, even though the sex was great. He has said his wife shows him no affection but he is still with her...Should I end it with this man ? Please help.....
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reader, Senate_78 +, writes (12 November 2009):
Ask yourself this? If you were still married and it was your husband, wouldn't you want it to end. He's married, unhappy or not he has a wife and she isn't you.If you can stay friends with this man, stay friends but check your sexual needs at the door.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): Sorry i cannot be TACTFUL here and will just say it like it is. Just because your own hb left you (for someone else?) doesn’t give you a right to destroy someone else marriage and home. What are you looking for? For the aunts here to be sooooooooo sympathetic about your own divorce and condone your own wrongdoing. NO. You have no right to this married man, just because you could not keep yours, doesn’t give you the right to take some ones man. Sorry i am harsh and appear rude, i am just angry at what you have done. You know what it is to be wronged, you know what it feels like to have your whole wold come crashing down when you go through a divorce. You know thr pain you felt when your hb left you YET you have no compassion, no sense of doing right, your have no feelings of sorry and shame for his wife. why have you decided to lead this horrible double standards life. Take a good look at your self in the mirror, see what you have become. You are staring at the face of THE OTHER WOMAN/MISTRESS. Is this what you are. Is this what you want for your life. Leave this married man alone.
What do you think you are going to achieve, that the adulterous bastard will leave his wife ofr you and that he will remain faithful to you?? Doesn’t work like this darling. Men especially when they leave their wives for their mistresses ALMOST ALWAYS cheat on their women. Before opening your legs again think of the path you are choosing to go. Yes you may want to feel a penis between your legs again, but surely degrading your life and taking someone elses husband is not the way to do it. having sex with this ladys husband is just so damn evil. You were a wife once, DON’T become just a common f*ck angel. If your lover is not f*cking his wife, who is? I have said this before and i will day it again: married women love to screw , they just do not want to be screwed over! So, who is warming his wife while he is with you???? It is VERY RARELY a hb and wife do not have sex. It is just some pathetic excuse.
You had your post divorce f*ck session. Time to put them panties back on and actually put a lock and value it and only open up when you find a single man. F*cking this womans hb is not the answer to your own marriage ending. I am sure you have children –are you a good role model?? Becoming the other woman is actually despicable and since you value yourself so little do not take my word for it. time will reveal the real truth.
You know i am not angry anymore. I am actually SAD for you. Sad that you have no respect for yourself and sad that you have no sense of right from wrong. what have you become???
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reader, Elainey  +, writes (12 November 2009):
All I can say is any breakup is due to a change of heart. Do you think its worth it to give up your husband's 18 years of faith to you to a married man whom you have gotten to know for 6 months? There is no right or wrong in doing so just follow your heart.
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